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writes:I cant take this anymore. Me and my gf have been together 9 months im 16 shes 15. i dont care called it puppy love if u want but its really lol. anyways the prob is her ex. she loves me i know it she noes it and he noes it. and cos of this he keeps giving her a hard time and insulting her when im not there. more than once ive found her in tears. Now i could tear this guy to pieces (karate since your 4 is an advantage) but she wont let me. shes not protecting him. she hates him. she doesnt want me to get hurt. Apparently its the "crowd" he hangs around with. druggies, alco's. you Know the type. im at my last nerve. ive tired everything. i even took it to the police but they said there was noting i could do. just seeing the tears in her beautiful eyes breaks my heart. i dont no what to do. Help me plzzz.p.s i must seem like a real moan lol
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reader, sonny0732  +, writes (7 February 2009):
 ok man to man... either get some big friends so she lets you, or just do it anyway, but you have to teach him a lesson. if you end up getting beat up, well hopefully you learn to fight better, but it will be worth it trust me man
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reader, amber_schram +, writes (6 February 2009):
 awh im sry! i know u must feel helpless i would to! nd naw i don think it puppy love im 16 nd im n love.
when does he do this to her!!? at school!!? or outside of school!!? well either way i think she should stay away from this guy he sounds a little jelous nd if he hangs out with those kind of people she could get hurt.if its in school and she cant get away from him i think yall should tlk ta a counsler or principle or parents or someone. but if its outside of school nd she just happens to bump n ta him than i think she should just stay away from there for a while! let ur girl know that u r there for her nd that u will protect her every possible way. if this doesnt help than the not so smart thing ta do is ta round up a buncha ur friends nd fight him that not a good option tho. so just try ur best ta stay calm nd u can also tell the cops about the drugs nd stuff mayb they will get them or somethin. well i rly hop i helped i tryed my best. nd good luck ta both of yall nd yall will b n my prayers :]
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reader, shortstuff4789 +, writes (6 February 2009):
 have you talked to the school counclers? they may be able to give you guys some ideas about how to handle this. it would be dangerous for you to involve yourself with the type of people this guy hangs out with. but another alternative is to have a talk with your gf. she needs to stop letting her emotionally abuse her like this . and that is something the counclers can help with. emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. she needs to stand up for herself and for you. if you dont have a counceler at school talk to a teacher you have a good relationship with . they can give you some insight on what to do next.
hope this helps
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reader, AuntLola +, writes (6 February 2009):
 Hey
Just to clarify you don't seem like a moan at all!
i can completely understand what your feeling and how helpless you must feel.
But your girlfriend is right, you might be able to fight her ex, but im sure fighting his 30 friends wouldn't be so easy.
The only thing you can really do is talk to you girlfriend and come up with a non violence answer to it.
The police wont do much unless he physically abuses her, which we don't want to happen.
You could just try to avoid him, because at the end of the day 9 months is a long time and you and your girlfriend seem very much in love.
There are 3 main options
Option 1: fight the guy and run the risk of getting hurt (not a good option)
Option 2: confront the guy with no violence and just basically tell him to leave her alone
Option 3: get on with it and act as if he doesnt matter, if you and your girlfriend are together in the street and he shouts something, just laugh. he will feel embarresed and inmature.
i hope this helps
if not, write again to me
Aunt Lola
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