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Help me with comfort and strength! My marriage is so troubled!

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Question - (26 November 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 November 2015)
A female South Africa age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello guys. I am one stressed woman . For the past year i hv been suffering from post natal depression after i gv birth last year. No i am getting back to normal but my relationship is stressful, my husband has been cheating on me go the past year wht hurts me most is tht he has been cheating wth a girl h wants cheated on me with 4 yrs ago. He now says he wont hv anythg t do wt th girl again. But i am so hurt and devastated. He is not really behaving like someone who is sorry and he keeps finding fault wt me in everythg. He even said i cn leave him if i want bcz i am not good enough fo him anyway. I felt so hurt. I thnk h just said sorry bcz he was caught but i thnk he doesnt love me anymore. I hv two kids. I jus dnt hv strength t leave him. I gv up my career fo him as we decided tht i raise th babies at home. Now he is so successful and up there and i just cnt fathom leaving him and fo some woman to replace me. Help me with comfort and strength. I feel overwhelmed and weak

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2015):

If you can leave, leave. If you do not earn enough, have you got any family and/or friends who can help you leave him?

He is a cheater and treats you badly. I do not know what are your reasons for putting up with it.

Your post-natal depression may be caused also by the lack of support, respect and love from your husband.

If you have never been prone to depression this can play a major part.

I've seen it with my cousin's wife. I love my cousin, but he has been treating his wife badly. He constantly cheats on her. Actually, I think he has a double life, the one where he plays a husband and a father and than the "real" life where he can do (and does) anything he wants behind her back.

She suffered from a post-natal depression after last two daughters (they have three kids). The last time, the post-natal grew into a full-blown depression.

Don't wait! React while you still can.

Focus on yourself. Care for yourself and your child. Make a concrete plan of how to leave.

It will only get worse.

How do you know that he doesn't cheat on you constantly?

I wish you luck!

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