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*umpsuit01
writes:I know women are supposed to be the confusing ones, the ones that dont know what they want, and are hard to read. But this man, i just cant figure out. what exactly does he want from me?ok lets call him Chuck*I started talking to chuck, about a month ago. We really hit it off. He's strange, but i enjoy every bit of his odd. He's smart, and cute, and can actually hold a conversation, he likes a lot of the same music as i do, we have a lot of the same views on things, and number one in my books, he doesnt mind doing foolish, rediculous stuff with me. the only problem is he says things, that are just confusing to me. Some Examples. 1. " If you ever called me your boyfriend, i'd probably run" This was said in passing, unprevoked, and later on i spent the night, we had sex, and cuddled and all that good stuff.2. " Everytime we have been together, I have loved you. But when you leave, and im alone once again, i love no one." This was said the same night as above.3." i want to be with you for the rest of my life, without always having to be there"i forget when he said that one.Anyway, if anyone can help me desipher this cryptic nonsence,that would be very helpful. I really like, him and want to know just what to do to keep this "gem" in my life. xDHe really is a great guy,he just doesnt know it.thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, jumpsuit01 +, writes (22 September 2011):
jumpsuit01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to everyone for the advice.
All of you have valid points, but love is blinding me. actually more like infatuation is blinding me.
I would enjoy more then just sex with him, but i guess, from the sounds of things, its just not ment to be. so maybe i'll ride this out, and just have fun, until he decides to nut up, or shut up.
Thanks again.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 FWB baby...
sex and fun and games nothing more nothing less
nothing cryptic about it.
if you find yourself falling for this "gem" guard your heart.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 September 2011):
 Ditto, ditto, and ditto.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 There's nothing cryptic, I'd say he's crystal clear. He enjoys the times you spend together, and he likes the sex, but he does not want to be your boyfriend. He's telling you " please don't get any ideas, we are just having fun and killing time together, no strings attached ".
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 My take on this is that his maturity level is in developmental stages and his ability to express emotions is trying to put thoughts together but for now it comes out in clumsy rehtoric. We men have a hard enough time expressing feelings but it's really akward when we're young. I'd bet he's not even 25.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (21 September 2011):
 He likes you, but not enough to commit and may never, is what he is saying. When you are around, he is invested in you; he makes you the focus of his evening, but when you are not around, he is his own focus again.
That is what he is saying.
I am sure he knows he is a good guy. If he tells you he isn't, he may be saying he is not a good guy for you to fall in love with.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): I wouldn't bother trying to decipher it because the only important thing is if you are his girlfriend or not. You're not so that speaks louder than his pseudo poetic nonsense.
He doesn't want you as his girlfriend but he likes the sex. That's all you really need to know and make a decision from there. Personally, you are wasting your time and getting used. He's no gem..just some guy who easily keeps you distracted from how he's taking advantage of you.
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