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writes:hello.i have a problem.please help as best you can.well i am 14, 5'4'' and weigh 9 st 9 lbs. i am really fat. i want to weigh 8 st 7 lbs so i am going to do a pro-ana diet and lots of exercise etc. now someone told me that ana can make you put on weight, how does this work. i want to be thin! my life is fucked up and i want one thing to feel good about. i mean my life is way too fucked up to say. help me be thin :( Reply to this Question
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reader, unclezak +, writes (16 May 2009):
your BMI is 23 which means you are a healthy average. Going wouldn't make you prettier. In fact the first place you may go skinny and not fully develop are your boobs. i'm sure you don't want that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): pro ana is never good! it promotes unhealthy eating and lifestyle.
If i were you id steer clear of it.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 "my life is fucked up and i want one thing to feel good about." That is what it is all about isn't it. Controlling your weight, achieving some impossible goal even if it kills you just to have something you can feel succesful about. That you control.
Sadly it don't work that way. Your body needs nutrition. If it doesn't get it, it will canabalize itself, eating up your muscles and organs and causing your skin, hair and nails to become extremely unhealthy. Eventually your heart itself is consumed and you die. Or you become so weak to disease the simplest cold can kill you.
Is that an improvement of what your life is now? The pro-ana sites on the net are a hideous attempt to trap girls who are troubled like yourself and get them to follow a diet that your body just can't sustain. Girls die from anorexia and it is a disease that can be self-induced.
And in all those girls, there is not a real desire to be thin, but rather to find something they control, to make some sense out of it all. It is in part a cry for help, but also a way to distance themselves. Nobody could possible love you as you are, care for you even when your life is a mess. But people do. People who love that akward teen girl whose life is so fucked up. More so then the fakers who create pro-ana sites for their own sick pleasures.
My advice is to find people in your vincinity, preferable someone with both feet on the ground who has seen a bit of real life to talk to. Not somebody you have to impress, just a person you can talk to about your fears. About life, someone you can just be a messed up teen with.
Life might seem impossible to deal with right now, but starving yourself won't make it any easier.
The support you might think to have found in pro-anna is not real. Someone who cares for you doesn't want you to diet. You are fine normal weight for a girl your age and height. Try to deal with the things that are wrong with your life one by one. Even if it seems hard, isolating yourself from them won't make them go away. If you loose those pounds you so dread, then what will have improved? Will you loose another ten pounds if your life is still fucked up?
There is a reason people warn of pro-ana sites and it is not because we hate you.
http://ledeblogueur.files.wordpress.com/2008/04/pro-ana1.jpg
http://www.miwim.fr/blog/ressources/ivan/pro_ana.jpg
See those images, search the net. Is this what you want? Will that make your life less fucked up? Ask yourself what does a person who tells you to diet to such extremes really feel about you.
Listen to the people here, pro-ana kills young girls who are hurting and don't know what to do. Don't end up like that. Find someone to talk to.
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reader, pebble +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Being thin won't fix your life, you're problems won't magically be solved because you've lost weight. Life doesn't work like that.
Once you start thinking pro anorexia, you'll end up with ten times more problems:
-hospital visits
-doctors poking and prodding you all over
-infertility (not being able to have children)
-ostoeperosis
-rotten teeth
-rotten nails
-hair loss
-heart problems
-organ failure
-death.
Is that what you want? Surely, you can't think these girls are healthy? You know they're going to die if they don't stop, right?
Write down all the problems you have in a list and work on them one at a time. When you get to the weight thing, speak to a doctor or a nutritionalist and work out a HEALTHY way to help you feel more confident about your weight.
I don't understand why you would want to take the dangerous route when you can do it the RIGHT way and get results that won't kill you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Heyy if you're that desperate to lose weight don't go buying just anything go to your doctor. Make sure you're doing atleast 60minutes exercise a day... drink water and avoid fizzy drinks and don't dramatically change your diet because it won't work just mae sure you eat healthy and limit the bad stuff like crisps to like one chocolate bar a day and thats it. good luck x
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 May 2009):
 I don't even know what Por-ana is but I strongly suggest that before you start any crazy diet fad that you have your mum take you to the doctor first. He can tell you the RIGHT way to loose any weight - if you even need it.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Oh babe, please please forget about the pro ana diets. When you starve yourself your body doesn't know when it will get it's next meal and so it actually begins to store fat. It sounds so boring but a healthy diet and exercise really is the best way to go about this. At your age you should actually lose weight quite quickly if you do things properly. You say that everything in your life is messed up and I think that's why you're making your weight the centre of your universe, because you want to be in control of at least one thing in your life. Consider this-anorexics ARE NOT in control, they are ill and once they start, find it very difficult to stop. If you really want to lose weight you should go for it, but pleeeease do it properly, maybe talk to your doctor for some advice? Message me any time you want and let me know how you get on x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Sweetheart, I think this will be bad news to you, but I'll say it anyway. Once you lose weight, you will never be satisfied with your new weight. '5 less pounds and I'll be happy'--no, you prob won't. I don't know what an ana diet is, but the best, healthiest way to lose weight is through healthy diet and exercise, and so one must simply watch what they eat. Any other form of dieting will just come back on.
You're 14, 5'4", 135 pounds. You don't need to be 119 pounds.
I'm 15, 5'6", 155 pounds, and my weight is perfectly acceptable in the States, idk about the UK. Love you're body! I highly doubt you're very fat!!!!
My weght has been fluctuating lately, but I've lost 9 pounds in 7 days due to a bad breakup. This is NOT healthy and it's VERY scary for me. Do NOT starve yourself. I'm not doing that, but my weight loss is too fast. Don't do anything drastic, it's hurts you, plus you're friends will really start to worry about you.
I wish you the best of luck!
Message me if you want to,
-GG
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (15 May 2009):
 You're an idiot if you do pro ana!! I did it and it fucked me up! So if your life is already fucked up then you don't want to mess yourself up even more!! Msg me if you need anything, I can help you do it properly, not the pro ana way! X
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reader, molly4  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Pro ana? Please don't tell me you want to be anorexic. If you try to lose weight by extreme diet and exercise, then you are just setting yourself up for a lifetime of eating disorders and binging. If you lose the weight too fast, you may have excess skin that will require expensive surgery to remove, and you will be quick to put back on the weight. Many girls who use extreme diet and exercise don't lose any weight anyways, or just lose all of their muscle and as soon as they eat something it piles on as fat. Please don't get yourself started on anorexia, I hope it isn't too late. Its a dark road of self hatred, guilt and depression. Its NOT worth it. Don't do it to yourself and your family. Lose weight by a balanced diet and exercise, and have your mum or a sibling help you stay organised an motivated. Don't go by what the scale says, go by how you feel. Don't waste your youth feeling bad about yourself, just get healthy in a way that won't be damaging to your life. xoxo
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