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Help, how will this manager treat me now?? And how should I behave now? I did something where I should have first asked permission of the manager.

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Question - (3 December 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2016)
A female Australia age 41-50, anonymous writes:

When you do something at work you should have asked a manager for permission to do..

Not job threatening, but something that needed a managers permission, you should have asked first..

When he saw you he told you you needed to ask first.. you said sorry and apologised

You know you should have asked

You feel so bad. :(

You wont do it again without asking!

Manager told you that you should have asked and you said "im sorry, i apologise, i apologise"

I then said "see you later" as he was going home..

he said "see you" then went to leave..

you were starting your shift, he was leaving..

How to act when i see him Monday ?

What if he hates me or is aloof or nasty now

Im sorry and i feel soo bad, should have asked first!

Dont want him to be annoyed

Help! Im an good worker and reliable..

Help!

Terrified..what if he tells the big boss??

Am worried he'll judge me

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 December 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntI have to ask how did today go after all?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2016):

Are you a new employee? If you've been around awhile your past job performance speaks for itself. You should also know a little about your manager. You don't seem to know him very well.

If he's a good manager, he doesn't walk around carrying grudges and persistently hounding you over one mistake. You are really blowing the whole thing out of proportion and trying too hard to read his mind and foretell the future.

You're ruining your whole weekend over one incident.

Get a grip. You said it wasn't job threatening. If it's not job threatening; the boss will get over it. Don't act too weird, you've apologized. Now let it be.

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A female reader, Carolinedesert321 United Kingdom +, writes (3 December 2016):

You're overthinking this. You gave a heartfelt apology and it was accepted. Believe me, the manager will NOT be having sleepless nights about what you did, unlike you. We all make mistakes and you will not have been the first to have made one that day. The manager will have much bigger issues to deal with on Monday and will have forgotten what happened. I guarantee by the afternoon of your first day back, you will feel so much better because you will realise that there are no repercussions to what happened, and it wasn't a major gaffe anyway. If it makes you feel better, apologise again in a quiet moment, but as you've already done it, there's really no need. The problem is now in your head but don't let it waste any more of your weekend....believe me, it's not worth it or necessary.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (3 December 2016):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntI really do think you are overthinking this. You have (quite rightly) apologised, and he has accepted your apology. You have learned your lesson and won't repeat your mistake.

If you are on fairly friendly terms, perhaps you could just say on Monday morning "I really am sorry about the other day. Are we ok?" and if you are assured that you are ok, then move on and leave your mistake in the past.

Stop beating yourself up. We all make mistakes. What is important is that we apologise (if appropriate) and learn from them - which I am sure you have.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (3 December 2016):

CindyCares agony auntI think you are blowing out of proportions what sounds like a minor mishap at work.

You broke a rule, got caught, got rapped on your knuckles, took responsibility, apologized and promised you won't do it again. Case closed.

You are normally a good ,reliable worker who, for once, made a mistake.

I wish for your boss that he does not have so much free time at work, and so much space in his head, to keep ruminating about this little incident , and taking it so personally that he should "hate " you ! That would be quite pathetic and unprofessional. But unless he is a special case, - he just did his job. Saw something irregular being done, called you out on it , ( as doing this is part of his job , not out of personal feelings of animosity )- end of story.

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