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writes:I'm really confused. Until last year I was a mature student at college. I got on with all my teachers, but particularly with one of them. In fact, he still comes to see me at my home. I see him as a friend, a good one, but I'm starting to wonder why he comes to see me! His visits are usually non eventful, we just sit and chat for a while but his behaviour, although has always been odd, seems to be getting stranger. When he taught me, he was often deliberately antagonistic, which I know is part of being a teacher, but he was particularly fervent with me. At the time, I dismissed it as him wanting to get the most out of me, I was easily the most interested in our class, but there were times when he seemed to forget there was anybody else in the room, and also at times, the 'academic debate' became personal and a little heated and sometimes hurtful. Our class were assigned some coursework, and he helped every person in the class except me. In fact, I know my grade would have been better if I had had the chance to make corrections as everyone else did. He told a colleague that he didn't want to 'breach the boundaries between student and teacher', and yet visited me while I was still a student of his. This is all in the past, but his behaviour continues to be odd, for example, he emails me regularly, but there always seems to be a certain level of formality that there isn't in our one to one conversations. Also, he signs cards and emails often with his partner’s name, and sends her love to me frequently, but I've never met her! The only time I have spoken to her she was very rude to me. He remembers things like birthdays and can be very attentive, but most of the time I feel as if he can't wait to get away from me! I love being in his company and as I have said, consider him a friend, but I don't think he considers me to be a friend; he has often acted as if he doesn't like me at all! Please would someone tell me what they think is going on inside this man’s head as I am out of ideas. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): i agree...hes fighting a serious attraction...afraid to get too close, cant stay away. Resents you because of it. Is still attracted in spite of it. Thats my best guess. Goodluck and i second the previous aunt, be careful...mal
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reader, Shan25  +, writes (5 December 2009):
It is confusing because at first you make it seem like he wants you and you are not interested like that but then you act like your missing him when he leaves you. he is smart and stupid at the same time he likes you but with his email he is being very careful with them so if he get caught he can try to make it seem like he did not send them. be smart and good luck
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