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writes:im 14 and me and this guy have known each other since we started high school and we stared goin out recently and we were out today with all our m8s and theres this 1 boy and he saw us kissin and he called me a s**g and my bf walked away from me an didnt talk to me for the rest of the nite. is he ashamed of me? i dont no help me plzz x Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 The insulting boy was rude and disrespectful. A cave man might have fought the other boy for insulting his partner. But that is a Neanderthal response. And your BF was smart to avoid that response and that trouble.
And you can be certain that the rude insulting boy was just jealous that your BF had a girl and was kissing her. Bullies are always losers.
I really do not sense that your BF was ashamed of you. What he did was an automatic response, done without even thinking it through. Probably the first time it had ever happened to your BF. Just embarassed at being called out, in the face of a rude insulting boy.
Your BF wanted no trouble that might hurt you more. If your BF had challenged the bully and there had been a fight the situation could have turned ugly, and nasty for you. Your safety was important and your BF recognised this.
Yes, your BF could have shepherded you out of harm's way, but in that split second i think he was on automatic pilot.
Later, after he walked away, the longer your BF stayed away I think he agonised what could he say to you, what did you think of him? For his act of walking away.
The insulting boy may have been bigger or aggressive and for that reason no one wanted to challenge the bully.
The insulting boy marked himself as a moron to avoid in any case.
Try to forgive your BF, and talk it over
with him. He may be hurting too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): I don't think he would be ashamed of you. He may have been embarrass to be caught kissing you with other people around or ashamed of himself.
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