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writes:Two years ago, I went through a painful break up with my now husband. During this time, I had a rebound with another gentleman that I unexpectedly fell for. When my now husband and I reunited, I dumped the other guy.It has been 3 years and this guy is still pestering me and wanting to be friends. I told him that I cannot be friends with him....mostly because of unresolved issues that we still have between us. I have tried everything - threatening him, embarassing him, humiliating him and goodness knows what else and he still won't leave me alone. He claims to want to be friends. Huh?I have also blocked him black and blue on every possible communication opportunity but he still finds a way through.I am still in love with him but I don't want to deal with him right now. I want him to leave me alone.What am I to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): So you are still in love with the guy who you want to leave you alone? Does he know this? Assuming he still knows that you are in love with him (and I have a feeling he does) would probably explain why he hasn't left you alone. When you send contradicting messages to people they are bound to see the light at the end of the tunnel. By telling him you are still in love with him, it gives him hope.
If you want him to leave you alone, tell him you have no feelings for him and it is over, and mean it and stick by your word.
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