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writes:its the 4th day of our 2 month break.should i sms him and tell him i dont wanto get back together or should i wait and c how i feel at the end of the two months. the two month break was his idea-its to c if we really love each other,i know he doesnt truly trust me but now im so afraid he will go off with somebody else-i know it wud break my heart and i could never get back with him again.we'v been together6yrs we'v had our breakups most of them my idea-but never for 2months the longest we ever lasted was 3wks and he was constantly sms me and callin and ringing but i just kept ignoring him i finally got back with him after he got me a ring and asked me to marry him but that all fizzled out because we decided we were too young. i know i dont want lose him but id prefer to end it with him before he ends it with me. does any males know wat the story is with this break up i know men think differently to woman. why is it for two months. should i really just forget about him and just move on with my life or do u think theres any chance of us workin out. i must also state this was my first proper relationship but i was his first time and that also worrys me that he'll wanto see wat sex is like with somebody else surely. please if anybody has any help on this situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe anon reader was right i did exactly wat he said i sent him one last message sayin fine im givin u wat u want u wont here from me again and that id realised i wasnt happy in the relationship..within a day he was messagin me and withn 3 days of not hearin from me he said he'd ade a big mistake that 2 months was way too long that he couldnt cope with a week,thank u anon reader!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): Hello there, I am going through something similiar. A week or so isn't enougth time to miss someone in a relationship, sure you will "miss" them but not REALLY miss them. Do not message him or contact him in any forms. If you do this he will know you are there waiting for him and he is safe in the break because he knows he has you. This may even lead to him extending the break. As hard as it is, you must do no contact at all. Then he may think he is losing you, and will regret the break. If he sees you as not that bothered and getting on with your life it will worry him a lot more. But like I say, if you stay by his side like a little puppy dog messaging him everyday he can be sure however long he wants to be on a break you are waiting. 6 years is a long time, you can't just throw that away. Maybe he has grown a little tired of the same routine and this way - having the break - will change that and hopefully he will come around. Just hang in there, no contact and see how it goes. 2 months really isn't forever. Best of luck x
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reader, Jiser +, writes (17 February 2007):
 If you love someone set them free. If he loves you he will come back to you. Problem is when we are young we are constantly looking towards what we want in life, searching for who we are. Some people never reach reach "what they want."
It may be that he feels there is more to life now and is trying to let you down gently. My ex did this. But the grass isint allways greener on the other side. Let him go and try to move on, keep busy and see friends. Try to abide by the No contact rule :). Good luck, and dont worry I am going through so much pain as well.
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