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writes:Ok on a friday night at the gym i noticed this guy looking at me and well there was a mutual attraction. He kept looking at me the whole time i was there. I had gone into the hall to take a break and he passed by me as he was leaving and passed by me and ask how i was doing and i said good but he kept walking and again stared as he walked out the door of the gym. Shortly after i leave also and as im walking towards my car i notice someone looking at me in their truck and he pulls right in front of me. It was him . i walked over and we started talking . He was cute i was attracted to him. He asked me if i was married , i said no and if i was single and i said yes. he even asked me if i lived around there and i said yes. Well it turned out we live int he same neighborhood. He asked for my number and i gave it to him. he typed it in his phone and he closed it and we kept talking. he didnt call .. the following friday he was there again at the same i was . i was afraid of it being awkward bc well he didnt call.. and i had no idea why. well i didnt know how to act so i kept to my self , i would pass by him and not say anything .. then i was in the hall way again and he came out walked towards the front of the gym and came back towards me stopped waved and said hi and walked away... im so confused. i dont know if he was trying to be nice? help needed to get the guys point of view. and well bc tomorrow is friday and not sure if i see him should i confront him as to why he didnt call or just leave it be..
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (22 January 2017):
 Sometimes a guy will get a girls number and then decide not to call her because someone else turned up.
He may still call, but I mean, at that point you're plan C or D.
Don't expect him to call and keep acting normal around him like you have.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 January 2017):
 Eh, block and delete his number. No point in keeping it in your phone.
Sounds like he likes the get women's numbers - like little trophies. Or he actually really suck at talking to women so this is not part of a strategy but part of him "practicing". Again, no need to keep his number.
So while he is attractive, he is also a DUD. And I agree with Garbi, you are probably not the only woman at the gym he has asked their number from.
If he was interested? He'd call you or talk to you again at the gym.
Don't waste any more time on this one.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (20 January 2017):
 You played it good by acting as nothing happened but so did he, meaning I find it very conspicuous that he would not engage with you at the gym but only away from the gym floor. That leads me to believe that there is another person at the gym floor whom he maybe playing the same way. So if this was me having to juggle two girls at the same place, I'd talk to you only when that other girl is not around. This also explains why he hasn't called you yet - perhaps that other girl is in his way because he knows he'd have to set a date with you once he calls. So he is delaying, and he is calm about it because he read you well, that you want him so he figures he has time. You decide what you wish, but if this was me I'd drop this even if he was to contact you.
BTW, I'm not sure the flow of the conversation he had with you when he got your number, but him interviewing you if you are married, then if you have a BF seems to me a conversation a guy does who is used to a "meat market" pick up habits.... My, guys take on what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2017): I agree with aunt honesty. I've had that happen to me twice and like you, once at a gym. There are guys that collect as many phone numbers as they can and maybe call one or two of those women. Might be an ego booster or maybe they want those numbers just in case_______(fill in the blank). I'd be curious to hear a guy's take on this too.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 January 2017):
 It sounds like he asks a lot of ladies for their numbers and forgets to call them all back. Honestly I wouldn't get your hopes up, because if he really wanted to meet up he would have called by now.
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