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He went from being passive aggressive towards me to being very kind..is that weird?

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Question - (9 December 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Well, a few months ago me and this guy were talking to each other and he had asked me out to dinner with him. I insisted that I would eventually go out with him, but 3 weeks later me and my ex got back together. (I never went to dinner with him either)

I text the guy and told him exactly that and that we should stop calling each other. Out of respect for my relationship.

He stopped speaking to me when he saw me in public and ignored me.He just came off as very cold.Sometimes he would just look over at me with a cold stare.

Now 4 months later and me and my boyfriend are broken up. Anyway, the Guy contacted me via email and we have exchanged numbers again and he is calling me every other day. (He skips a day and then calls the next).

He just kind of checks on me and ask did I have a great day and all. He keeps insisting that he wants us to "hang out" Which is nice...but it's like a TOTALLY different person..which is kind of creepy almost.

He never mention what happened a few months ago..it's like it didn't even happen with us not talking to each other. He didn't even ask whether or not me and my bf were broken up (even though we are)

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (9 December 2014):

No I don't think it's weird behaviour at all - I think it's pretty standard behaviour for someone who was hoping to start a relationship but realised the object of their affection was disinterested (or unavailable) and then discovers that there may be a possibility of a second shot.

Be honest with this guy if you really don't want to date him. Don't say a vague "eventually" again if that was really a polite way of saying "no"

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntYou can't understand why he got his feelings hurt? That he felt USED by you? That IGNORING YOU was the best thing for him?

Lady, you strung him along till the ex and you got back together then suddenly "to respect your relationship" you can no longer talk.... And you don't GET why he was butthurt?

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