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He watches porn to relieve tension and then falls asleep on me?

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Question - (23 April 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 April 2008)
A female New Zealand age 36-40, *ichelle_T writes:

I have been with my partner for over two years, we were engaged but he left me last november and then hit a rollercoaster of getting back together and breaking up. After a few months we both realised we loved eachother so we are giving it one last real chance. Once we got back together he told me that 2 days after we split up he went to a wedding and got drunk and slept with a girl friend of his. I forgave him, but over the past few months we have only been having sex once a week (if that because he jsut falls asleep) and then on monday I found stax of porn on his computer - he said it was for his days off when he got a bit horny! I was so hurt and upset - but I over looked it and went out and bought lingerie and a few other items to spice things up for him and last night after he'd had the day off I slipped in to the lingerie, put on some candles and got in to bed next to him, he put his arm over me and fell asleep. I don't know what to do or how to feel. He Says he loves me and that he does want me but can't control falling asleep. Is this possible?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

This is definitely a serious problem especially being that you are so young. It is a normal thing for a man to masturbate to porn, but it seems as though he is replacing sex with you for it. If he has already cheated, he will do it again. My suggestion is to seek counseling for yourself and I don't think that I would be able to stay with a man like this. There are so many wonderful men out there that would not act like your man does and you are so young....you have plenty of time to find the right guy. Don't settle and sell yourself short. My suggestion is to leave him.

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A male reader, previasc96 United States +, writes (23 April 2008):

You man has a serious problem, he needs to see a doctor! Why is he so tired all the time? He probably masturbates too much during the day and it makes him exausted. He's being inconsiderate to you're needs. He's you man and he's supposed to be the one satisfying your sexual desires,but instead he wants to spank off to porn! That's sick!

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (23 April 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntHe is one tired doggie..Maybe , you need to tell him earlier to prepare him for the night.

The anticipations would perked him up

His system just shut down and it does happen because his batteries need recharging.

Maybe, you need to do it earlier .

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