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He was such a gentleman, so charming! But since he flew out of town, I haven't heard from him at all! I'm clueless! Men, what is your opinion?

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Question - (17 September 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 September 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I was seeing a very gentlemanly, charming man for a little over a month. Every time we were together his charming ways would shine through more and more. I don’t even think he realized how charming he was being. He would say the sweetest things to me and do things that were so heart touching, not your everyday BS talk/ways. He came off as sincere.

He had to fly out of town and will be back the middle of next month. We spent the night together before he left my house heading to the airport. He talked of how he would pass his flight time with thoughts of me. He left, and I have not heard from him since. It’s been 2 weeks.

I was in a very unhealthy marriage and getting out into the dating world has been such a challenge. He was even one who went as far to assure me that not all men are jerks.

This has knocked me back on guard when I thought I was finally able to let it down a little…I’m beginning to really despise men. What happened? Can someone shed some light on this as to how someone can appear to be so into you, but then leave and not hear a word?

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A female reader, sappygirl United States +, writes (17 September 2008):

sappygirl agony auntDon't believe one word he says. Guys will say anything to get in your pants and leave when they got what they wanted. YOu have to look at his actions.And since he hasn't called you then he's got other girls on his mind or he really is busy with work. Whatever the case if he can't take 5 mins to pick up the phone, you're not on his mind. Just move on with your life and do what you did before you met him. If he calls back..great. if not..then you know he wasn't the one for you. Whatever you do, don't call him. He has your number.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008):

It is work related, military, and yes, I knew he would be leaving. No, I have no way of contacting him, as he makes his calls through his computer.

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A male reader, saltwater United Kingdom +, writes (17 September 2008):

saltwater agony auntWhere did he go, what was he doing? Was it work related or family related etc?

When did he decide to go on this trip -- was it something he just told you about out of the blue or something you were aware of from the start?

To be frank there could be millions of reasons; circumstances you may not be aware of that are preventing him from contacting you.

He hasn't contacted you, so have you tried to contact him?

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