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22-25,
anonymous
writes:I am 19 found out a few days ago that my boyfriend whose 22 was sexting a girl in a different state for 2 days. He did not tell me. The whole month he was hiding this he was pushing us having a future and a "forever". His best friend told him he needs to stop and he did. When I confronted him about the cheating he said he knew he messed up and wanted me to know that I'm what he wants and didn't want to tell me for fear I will leave. I told him I want access to his phone and he sent all his passwords to phone and account and he gave them without question. I do not however plan to use them. He seems sincere an regretful.What do I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Get rid off all his passwords, you cannot ask anyone for their passwords, he will feel trapped and have no privacy what so ever. You should never put someone under pressure like that. If you want the relationship to continue then he needs to earn the trust back, having his passwords doesn't mean that he loves you and wants to be with you, it just means he will either not have privacy or he will set up other accounts.
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reader, N91  +, writes (4 April 2017):
 You cannot be serious, is spot on, you either trust him or you don't.
If you don't think he will do it again and you forgive him give him another chance. If you think it will happen again then leave.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (4 April 2017):
 Destroy the password information and tell him he has to rebuild your trust in him. It is not your job to keep checking up on him and, in any case, it is easy enough to set up new accounts and keep them secret.
Either you trust him or you don't. Without trust, you may as well end the relationship now and stop wasting your time. Spell out to him that he has had his one chance and that, if there is any repeat of behaviour which will make you lose trust in him, he is out. And mean it.
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