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writes:Mod Note: Posters Own TitleMy boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I thought we were perfect together, we didn't fight once for the first 8 months of our relationship, and get this, he adopted BOTH my kids. But lately all we seem to do is fight. I've been blaming it on work, but now I'm starting to think that we're just not compatible. I want to save our relationship, but at the same time, I'm so close to just giving up. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm looking for some real good advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (4 July 2010):
 It would be helpful to know what you are fighting about. Incompatability is no reason to fight, to the point you think about break up. Unless he's into drugs, alcohol, cheating, watch sport or play video games for 7 hours a day, go out with his friends and never spend time with you, not considerate in bed, there is nothing else I could not live with. You said all we seem to do is fight. You make it sound like fighting happens to you, rather than you do the fighting. It's not that you lose control. You actually lose control by trying to change things rather than to surrender to what is. The honeymoon period might be over, if you love this person you will be willing to put more effort into your relationship. Go on dates for just you two. Learn how to destress, calm your emotions. Let go of the need of perfection. Be a better listener. A good advice to run your family is always remember: children are the heart of the family. You take care of the man's stomach (means making delicious, nutritious food), and below his belly too. Let the man make the head decisions, big decisions like finances and household maintenance. You take care of the small ones like entertaining your children, getting a gallon of milk from the store, etc.
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