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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i had a long distance relationship while he was at uni which was a bit of a disaster because he couldnt stay faithful to me. He finished uni in June, so we decided to give it a go now he's at home. While he was at uni there were always girls texting and i guess it made me insecure but also his actions. So we got back on the condition that he wouldn't take any new girls numbers or be in touch with any girls unnecessarily. If it was goin to work this time it would progress to marriage so he needed to prove this time that he could be trusted.He got a new job in October, had a works night out in December after which i noticed he had got a female colleagues number. I told him not to be in touch with this girl to be true to me but i just recently seen his bill and he'd been textin her the whole month of December when I wasn't around. I confronted him last night after a different arguement and he says he was doing nothing wrong - it was just casual chat. I said would he do this if he was my husband he said no, so i said whats different this time between bein my boyfriend and being my husband. I thought if we could get over the trust hurdle through his efforts we may be able to spend our future together. I am nearly 27, he is 25. Question is do i forgive again or accept that he just doesn't want to respect my wishes, or perhaps his ego boost was more important than me? Of course he thought he wouldn't get caught.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 I think you will be having to forgive him over and over again if you stay in this relationship. If he screwed up on this second go at it then why would you want to try again? I suggest that you move on and find the guy who will give you the respect you deserve.
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reader, thels1  +, writes (23 February 2007):
well if i was you i would put it out to him straight sit him down and tell him how you feel ask him which is more inportant you or that girl tell him that if he doesnt change you cannot be with you need to be respected not to be treated in a bad way how would he feel if it was the other way round?
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