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writes:i have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year. he is 6 years older than me. iam 20. he lives on his own with a housemate while i live with my parents and study full time. this is my final year and because of that, i have a curfew during the week, iam allowed to see him but have to be home at a certain time. also because i take chemotheraphy and medication, i do not sleepover his house (i dont feel ready to) because i feel as thought i have to be on my own. from the beginning when we met, he has been finding it difficult to deal with the fact that i cant stay with him all time and that i have to be home at certain times. ive explained to him that there is only 4 months left of my semeseter this year and that after that iam free to be with him whenever. but for now i have to follow my parents rules to get my school work done. this weekend and the last we have been spending less time together, as i was on holiday and we saw each other everyday. i rang him today as i knew something wasnt right. he told me that he wants to go on a break, and that he thinks we would work better later on when iam more independent and free from studies.this is so heartbreaking and hurting me because i thought he could at least wait for a few months. he says that we'll still talk and that i can talk to him everyday if i want. he says that he feels like this isnt a proper relationship because he cant see me all the time and was frustrating because he is older than me. and said the routine of dropping me off at a certain time etc is eventually going to make him bored. i asked if he would sleep with other people and he said probably not. and he says that he is in love with me but cant do the relationship this way. and says that we'll probably end up seeing each other anyway because he'll miss me too much.iam so depressed hurt and lonely and iam aching so badly. do i not talk to him and just leave it as it is? has he broken up with me? he is my first and i am so lost right now.what do i do??? please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): i don't know how long you have been with him but i reckon it because you don't put out he sees you as a prune and he fed up he's getting no where with you he comes off as this nice caring guy but really take a step back has he done anything nice for you lately something special if you answered no then he's playing you. plus his room mate might be egging him on. if he really cared for you and truely loved yyou he wouldn mind spending time with you regardless of how you see each other hold off break contact because what he is hoping is you come running over to him and saying how much you love him and put out and he has won he got the upper hand he knows that he do this trick any time to get what he wants. so hold off plz i was in the same boat as you once and your heart will still it but please be strong.
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