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He wants my panties

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Question - (22 August 2012) 10 Answers - (Newest, 22 August 2012)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

So me and my boyfriend of two years were just snuggling in his bed when he suddenly asked me if I could give him a pair of my panties. He asked me with this big smile on his face like he was a bit nervous and at the same time excited. We haven't had sex so I'm very confused as to why he would ask something so odd like this. He didn't say if he wanted them dirty or clean, he just asked and I told him I would think about it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2012):

I am surprised no-one has actually said the real reason they think he wants them! He wants them to masturbate with. A very common practice - usually they steal them, the brave ones ask!! :)

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (22 August 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntHe might want them for whatever reason, as many of the men here say, but the truth is, you won't know until you ask. Being a woman and being very protective of myself and my things, I would want to know.

You always need to keep it in the back of your mind that if things would ever happen to go bad between the two of you, he could (not saying he would) use them against you.

The same way some boyfriends want naked or provocative pictures of us, and then if we get into a fight or break-up, they send those pictures all over kingdom come. Or, the same way some boyfriends want our panties or one of our bras, we trust them, then they take pictures of them and send it to all of their buddies.

I am not saying your boyfriend would do these things, but they are always possibilities. Just like some guys wanting them for under pillows and such. Those are the sweet guys out there and I'm sure your boyfriend is sweet adn trustworthy. I am generally a cynic, so take my view for what you will.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (22 August 2012):

Fatherly Advice agony auntClean, used lightly, preferably you wore them with him and he saw them (if you have gone that far). Feel free to spray your perfume on them.

Here is my interpretation. He is into panties, one way or another. Your relationship includes cuddling in bed but not sex. He wants 2 things. One he wants to step it up a notch. It probably took him a while to work up the courage to ask, because of the second thing. Two, he wants to know if you will accept him knowing that he has a thing for panties.

So, please do ask him what he wants them for. He probably wants to tell you. Be prepared to accept or reject him. Yes research it. Think about if there are conditions attached to you giving him a pair. You are young, and this is new for you.

About the trophy thing. They really aren't great trophies unless you are planing on signing a pair for him. Hard to prove where he got them. To my knowledge most trophy hunters steal them. Have you noticed any missing?

To summarize. Yes it's weird. Usually pretty harmless. Not a sign he is gay. Usually a part of his life that he won't give up. Relationships are communication.

FA

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (22 August 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntMany of us guys like to keep a pair of our lady's undies either under our pillow or in our pillow case. It makes the nights much better....

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (22 August 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI agree with Bond Girl... what in the world does he want them for?

I've had MANY relationships including a guy that liked to WEAR my panties while i painted his toenails red but he never asked to keep a pair.

ASK HIM what they are for... then let us know what he says and how he reacts....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2012):

If you research Paraphilia and Panty Fetishism it will help you to understand why your boyfriend is making this request for your underwear.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (22 August 2012):

Anonymous 123 agony auntHe might want it for different reasons. He might want something that smells like you, which if you ask me is REALLY creepy. He might also want it as a trophy to display in front of his friends. You never know.

Personally I would never give in to such a weird request and just say no. You don't know where the panties might end up!!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 August 2012):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with BondGirl. Sounds like he is looking for a trophy. Almost make me thing Frat initiation, but I could be way wrong.

Why on Earth would he need a pair of your panties? As it seems the relationship is fairly new?

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (22 August 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntI would ask him if they are going in his collection or what. I would ask him what he is going to do with them. I have honestly never had a man ask me that, and I have been with some characters. I don't think I would do it, but that is just me. I wouldn't want someone showing them off to his friends or hanging them in his vehicle or something

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2012):

Maybe he wants them as a souvenir in case you and him don't work... :/

I don't want to conjure up any other ideas what he wants them for lol.

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