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writes:Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a 1 1/2. My boyfriend expects me to give him affection example: Give him foot rubs, Scratch his back, Play with his hair And massaging his hands and fingers. Sometimes We rub each others feet but, a couple of times, he asked me to rub his feet then i asked him if he would do mine after He say no. I don't think that is fair He expects me to do all for him And does not return the favor I would love for him to play my hair once in a while Well.. at least i play with his hair even when he doesn't ask me to What does this mean? Please help! Thx Reply to this Question
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 It means that he sees the relationship as "all about him".
A good relationship is one of give and take. That does not mean that you give, and he takes!
If he is that selfish with simple things like foot rubs and all of the things that should be mutual, one has to wonder how will he be when it comes to other things?
For example. While you need to see the dentist, will he opt for a new truck? While you need new shoes, will he buy himself a couple extra pairs of jeans? I could go on, but the point is that he will take care of his own needs first, all the while your needs are being neglected!
My best advice is to find someone who will put YOU first!
Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I believe that a man should put his woman first! Take care of her needs, give her the sort of attention and affection that he wishes to receive. In the end it should/will come back around.
Then again, what do I know? Though I carry these beliefs and feelings, I'm still single and alone.....
You deserve better.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 It means that he is a very selfish man. You need to tell him how you feel, explain to him that you want affection from him as well, that it cant be all one sided, tell him you want to feel loved as well. He probably does love you its just he is beginning to get lazy in the relationship and he needs to be told he needs to make an effort. Good Luck.
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