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He wants a 'no strings' bit of fun, and I find that degrading

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Question - (14 April 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 April 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I've done a really bad thing, I told a guy I really like that the reason I was so shy is because my last boyfriend was a jerk, I told him I am frightened to get close to someone because he never wanted to be seen with me and always put me down and he was abusive, none of this is true, the truth is is that I have actually never had a boyfriend because I have no confidence in the way I look and I always feel I am not good enough. He has told me he doesn't do relationships he just like to see people now and then - no strings, he is very honest and says he sees a lot of woman and he likes me and thnks we should maybe do the same. I want to which I know is wrong because its a little degrading just having casual no string sexual favours what should I do.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (14 April 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntDid you post this earlier?

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/unsure-about-the-friends-with-benefits-relationship.html

If it wasn't you please look at the responses she got for basically the same question.

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A female reader, hpoco Switzerland +, writes (14 April 2010):

hpoco agony auntDon't applaud him for his "honest" avoidance of commitment. You won't get what you want out of this relationship. You might think that having no string fun with this guy could boost your self-esteem, but if you have actually never had a boyfriend, I really think you will just want more from him that he will ever be willing to give. You used the word degrading, and I think that is exactly how you will feel. Look for someone else.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010):

It seems like NSA is not something you are comfortable with. If the idea alone doesn't appeal to you and you feel it is degrading chances are that having NS sex with him will leave you feeling a lot worse.

Best not to indulge.

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