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He wants a lap dance! How should I do this?

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Question - (6 February 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 May 2008)
A age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Sometimes, I joke about giving my boyfriend a lap dance. Saying I will makes him go erect, and he seems to love the thought. And if only I had the confidence and the looks, I would! He says I'm beautiful, and that everything I do turns him on, but I really just don't see it. I really want to lap dance for him on Valentine's day, but I'd just feel stupid. Does anyone know how to lap dance properly? I don't wanna mess up, and just feel stupid. I don't feel sexy in myself, athought I don't think I'm unattractive, but not sexy enough. I feel like whenever I try practising, I'm trying and failing to be sexual. It's just, it makes me feel bad about myself, I don't want to have to trick myself into doing it.

Why don't I have this confidence, and how can I properly lap dance? Please! I need expertise here.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008):

um heres a little advice i have for ya. So I have been goin out with my girl for quite a while now. at lease a year, and she is a dancer so that helps, but she just kind of one night just hopped on me and started dancing and gyrating around with her ass and her front end and her pelvis. she didnt know what she was doing at first but i let her know what i wanted, what worked, and what i liked, and how amazing she was making me feel. if your boyfriend is anything like me or any other guy for that matter, just the confidence and willingness to give him a dance in and of its self is a turn on and he will absolutely love it. Just go for it, if it all seems to weird, whats the worse taht can happen, you laugh your asses off for tryin sometihin new.

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A female reader, Ileana United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2008):

Ileana agony auntHey honey,

Why dont you take a class? Its a very popular exercise now erotic dancing and also pole dancing, while your doing that you'll feel healthier and happier which will boost your self esteem then you can go and show him what you've learned!

Personally, i put on a song and just move to the music. Were a pretty corset (not too tight) and some same coloured shorts maybe some stockings. All fun!

Just smile and hide the crazy, wear the confidence. If you havent got confidence fake it! You'll soon get it by his reaction to the fake one.

Happy dancing.

Iileyana

xx

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (6 February 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntHi hunny

I think giving your boyfriend a lap dance is a wonderful idea. The only thing holding you back is your self confidence. Your boyfriend says he thinks you are beautiful....if hes telling you that, thats all you need for inspiration and confidence. You are doing this for him, and to make him feel good.

I am not a stipper, but doing a lap dance is easy. You have to relax yourself, put on some music with a good sexy beat and go with the flow of it. Do not worry about messing up. How can you mess up? Hes not there to judge you....he'll love you more for messing up because he loves you already. I'm not going to advise you to strip while doing this..thats up to you, if you are already having sex with him, then go ahead and take it off, like stippers do a piece at a time. You have to move your hips slowly and match the beat....move like a cat or a snake, slow and steady, like you are about to attack him any minute. Dont kiss him on the lips but lick the side of his face or nibble his ear while teasing to kiss him. Dont touch his penis with your hands. Let your butt and your pelvis do all the touching there. Stand up and rub your breasts against his face while you dance. Move your hands all over his arms and chest, like a nice teasing massage. These are all things you can do...whatever you feel comfortable with. Just remember to always have your butt swaying to the music and you cant go wrong whatever your moves.

Plan on doing more than one song. With the first song just tease him and keep some distance..and with the next songs you can be closer, sexier and more aggressive...grinding him real hard by the end of it.

Oh another thing...ask him not to use his hands on you while you are lap dancing. You have to be the aggressor on top of him. If you want to break this rule have him touch you with the last dance. By then it will be more of a make-out than a lap dance....I'm sure you'll know what to do after the dancing is over...lol.

email me if you have any questions.

Bye love! Have fun.

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntHoney I dont know many women that would have the confidence, to lap dance for their man.

I think what you need to do to stop yourself looking and feeling foolish, is not to go to over the top.

Start by dressing a bit provocative, and maybe cook a nice meal with a nice bottle of wine. Put on some music, something that you like to dance to, or find easy to relax to. You can still keep fairly covered up and look really sexy, look at Dita von Teese. Its all about flirting with him really, and once you start and get the right reaction (if you know what I mean) it will get easier.

Good luck babe XXX

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