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He wanted to be sex buddies-I agreed-and then he backed out. And now he's ignoring me!

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Question - (22 November 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2006)
A female , *tarkiss writes:

Here is an update on what i was trying to say:

So I meet this guy.We both like each other. I wanted a relationship and he didn't but he did want friends with benifts. Thats ok with me. He tells me I will be the only girl that he will have and that we both have never done this before. When it finely comes down to it. he say's no and leaves. I felt mad that he blew me off so I wrote to him saying. That I felt to needy round him 2. It felt awkward and 3 I didn't want to push him into anything and that I wanted to be friends. well now he won't talk to me an it's been four day's we used to talk every day. I'm hurt what do you think is going on?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006):

Ditto, on the advice below, you don't want a sex buddy, or you would not be upset over this and write what you wrote to him, stop trying to fool yourself, this guy does not deserve you anyway.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006):

He probably thinks that even though you said friends with benefits was okay with you, that you really want more. Telling him you feel too needy around him, and want to be friends (true, you did add that you don't want to push him into anything) just reinforced his sense that you want more from him than to be just a sex buddy.

This is what it sounds like to me.

If he won't talk to you, there is really nothing more that you can do. You both want different things. All you can do is to accept that as fact, and grieve and let it hurt for a short time, then move on with your life. Sorry!

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