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writes:Okay, so I'm 15 and I'm kind of in a relationship with this guy ( same age ). Ilove him with all my heart, and he loves me back. Itell him everything, and vise versa. He has had a difficult life. He's in a depression, but he goes to therapy for that. He tells me that I'm the only person who really makes him happy. He used to cut his wrists, but igot him to stop doing that. But he started smoking weed about a year ago. Itried to get him to stop, and he did for a while. He recently started to smoke again. He knows idont want him smoking, so he tries to quit, but it's hard for him to. Smoking helps him relieve stress and helps with his depression. Idont want to pressure him into quitting, only because it's his way of dealing with his problems and getting away. Iunderstand that, and ifeel really bad for him. He always tells me what goes on in his life, and it's very intense. It leaves me speachless. Iwant him to stop, but idont want him to be so stressed out and depressed. What should ido ? Please help. ireally love him and idont want anything to happen to him 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Well he is weak minded If he can't deal with his problems I want you to think about it if you guys where to continue dating well sooner or later he will be stressed and want to smoke because he is stressedAnd my life was hard and I'm stessed out I'm joining the military and I don't smoke marijuana So all of that stuff of stessed and hard life so he has to smoke is all complete and utter bulls**t Tell him to man up
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Not to advocate drug use, but actually Marijuana is one of the safest illegal drugs he could be doing. It actually does help with depression, although if he's already on medications for that, it is less than ideal.
What you need to do is be supportive of him. Focusing on the negative stuff he does just adds more stress to his life. Be honest about not liking it and wanting him to quit, but don't come down too bad on him either. He may find that he doesn't feel he needs it anymore if some of his stress is gone.
Biochemically speaking, Marijuana is quite safe. While it can be habit forming, it doesn't meet the criteria for addiction where most prescription drugs do. It only affects specialized areas of the brain that influence mood. It only works on one receptor in the brain, the CB1 receptor. The CB in that comes from cannabis because until more recently, that was the only thing they could find that works on it. They have since found the naturally occuring THC in the body and named it Anandamide.
I tell you this so you have a better understanding of the drug. Good luck. Your boyfriend has a lot of problems. It's better to focus on the big ones first and the small ones usually drop off after.
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