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writes:I left a message on here yesterday about how my boyfriend told me to leave him alone, resulting in me leaving him last night because i could not handle the way he was with me anymore.Well about 20 minutes ago i recieved a text off him, asking (nicely) if when i get chance could i please drop his stuff round. It took me a while to reply. I replied with 'sorry but im not running around after you anymore, if you want it, you come get it'. Usually i would have said 'yeah course i will'. But now after i have said what i said i feel so awful!My mum and 1 of my best friends said that he just expected me to do as he asked and probably is in shock that i said what i said to him but now i am scared he will turn it around and make me look like a real bitch.YES i do still love him but EVERYONE is telling me he used me as a doormat and i was at his beck and call, i am trying so hard to be strong but is the text i sent back to him the right thing to have said to him? Or should i have been nice and said i would take his stuff round?May i add he has treated me like a doormat for a while, always expecting me to say how high when he says jump.HELP
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reader, roadman +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Well there love in this story,so its not as clear cut to do as people tell you to do,as no matter what happens your still going to be feeling this guy for a few months well,best to try and sit down and talk to each other,with out rage and listen to both sides..If your not happy in the way he treats you then talk about it,find out if he holds the same feelings as you,before rushing off,leave me alone don't really spell we have come to and end..If far as his things,he knowns where there are so he can come and get them when he ready,but be sure he is wanting his things and not to see you..but if u really do love him then try and work things out,as walking out is not going to help your feelings,love is between to people so no one should advise anyone to leave someone they love,you'l know yourself when you've had enough!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (31 December 2008):
 Pack up his stuff in a box, keep it by the front door. Don't call him about it. He knows if he wants it he can come get it. There is nothing wrong in you saying no every once in a while.Move on. You did just fine. And listen to your friends when it comes to guys and how they treat you. The sometimes notice stuff yo can't see thru those rose colored glasses.Good luck!
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 You Did the RIGHT THING..Actually I am a little disappointed with you.. You should have done this a long time ago.. Love is a relationship of Equality.. Nobody rules anyone.. Your message was Correct.. He needs anythings, he can come and get it.Respect yourself buddy.. A little bit of ego is always good.. Never let your respect for yourself die.. A person should love you, not your actions..G'day
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): You did right and yourself proud!! Keep it up girl and show him you dont need him and he is not having you running around no more. Please do not give in to him when you are doing what you have probably needed to do for a long time!! That was the hardest thing you have to do, you just need to carry on being like that and it will be in your favour. Good luck - lets hope I can do the same with my boyfriend!
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reader, Skeez +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Of course you did the right thing.
And no it wasnt bitchy of you to do. If hes been treating you like rubbish, AND just letting you walk out and leave then he really isnt worth being with. If he really cared he would have sent a text on the lines of 'come back, im sorry for what i said and how ive been'. But instead he asks for his stuff back.
Its pathetic. So dont feel guilty. You sent that text becuase that is exactly what you wanted to say and you shouldnt fall back on it.
Leave this guy and find someone else who will treat you with respect or just enjoy your time with mates.
Goodluck xxx
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reader, lilly123 + ♥, writes (31 December 2008):
 Dont take his stuff round for him tell him if he wonts them to come for them, if he comes dont invite him in just give him his stuff and say bye. If he has always treated you like a doormat then he will be too shocked at how you are standing up for yourself that he wont even think about makin you sound like a bitch and if he does so what hes out of your life now thats all that matters. Goodluck
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reader, _Lotus_ +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Well if hes treated you like a 'Doormat' throughout your whole relationship, then the text you sent him was well deserved and has put him in his place! Let him come and pick his own stuff up, don't let him dictate even after the relationship has ended!
Its time for you to be strong and stand up for yourself! Please don't let yourself be treated like this again in future relationships and use this one as a learning experience. Let the guys come running after you, instead of the other way around!
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