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He thinks if he's around me his "cover" will be blown

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Question - (27 December 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2010)
A male New Zealand age 30-35, *ushroomcello writes:

so, i like this boy. we've been friends for about a year and a half. were both in the closet. i told him through facebook messaging i like him and he never replied (that was like a year ago) so its been a while. but after i told him, hes been the same around me. sweet, flirting sometimes, always sitting next to me. now, i know hes gay, even though he didn't tell me. please, just believe me. i would like to get closer and hang out more with him, but its kinda awkward and i guess he thinks im open about being gay and he thinks his "cover" will be blown by hanging out with me. so regardless to whether he likes me or not i want to spend more time with him. i need to tell him i never told anyone else i like him but himself, and i want to know how he feels and that i won't tell anyone. how do you think i should go about telling him this? i know i asked a similiar question before , sorry this is really inportant. thanks

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A male reader, Nathan1 Ireland +, writes (28 December 2010):

It sounds like he may not be ready where as you want to move your friendship onto another level. There is a risk of losing that friendship if you move too fast.

If you feel the time is right, plan some time together away from your usual hangouts. When you are both relaxed you can casually approach the subject. Tell him that your glad you are friends and that you find him attractive. He can tell you whether he feels the same without too much awkwardness. Good luck

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A male reader, crazybeast United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2010):

crazybeast agony aunthas it ever passed your mind that this guy might not be gay and if he is he might not like you.

Also if he is a closet gay he will proboly still be coming to terms that he is gay, its a long and confusing road to self acknoledgment

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