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writes:I've been with a guy for 8 years and have a child together. Recently he came to me and said that his confused and thinks he's gay. I told him to find out if he is or not. The other day he came to me and said that he gave a guy a bj, he said he liked it. But he didn't have sex with him because he doesn't want to betrayed me that way. He says he loves me and will always will. My problem is we have sex regularly and I always turn him on with no problem. Is he gay or what? I'm really getting confused and so is he? I don't know what's the right thing to do? Should I just move on even though I love him so much and don't want to ruin our family?
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 It sounds like he is having a crisis at the moment and experimenting. I can imagine how traumatic this must be for you. If you are still turning him on, you are clearly doing something right and there is clearly something still there. Maybe things are a little boring and need spicing up, that could be why he is looking for fun else where.
Try spicing things up a bit. Be careful though and make sure he is honest with you as he could place your health at risk if he is not being honest.
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reader, Confused_123  +, writes (29 March 2011):
Maybe he's bisexual and needed to do some experimenting? He probably is if he likes having sex with you and enjoyed giving a man a blow-job.I'm pretty sure most bi people have a preference (as in, they'll like women a bit more, or men) so i suppose it's up to you two to decide what this means for your relationship.However, if he loves you and you're comfortable with his bisexuality surely there's no reason why you can't stay together? I mean, you have children and love each other so why not?
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Your "family" is already ruined!It's time to take your child and make a new life for the two of you. He is engaging in dangerous and potentially life threatening behavior. Is this the kind of future you want for you and your child?He's putting his own selfish wants and needs before the well being of his family. He has already left this relationship, it's time you and your child did to!Do the right thing. If not for yourself, do it for your child!
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reader, fellows +, writes (29 March 2011):
The best thing to do is except him for who he is or as they say the person on the inside because if you really care for him you will do what you thinks right for the both of you.
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