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He tells me not to worry about his cheating, because he loves me!

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Question - (14 December 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 15 December 2012)
A female Ghana age 30-35, *ercyy writes:

My boyfriend is cheating and anytime I talk about it,he goes like..he knows he is doing the wrong thing but the fact that he loves me should be enough reason for me not to worry....does he really loves me,if he does why would he cheats...am soo confused don't know if I should call it a quit...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2012):

Love doesn't have as much to do with cheating as people think. He could love you very much, some people just can't be exclusive to one person. If you can't handle that you have two choices: break up with him or tell him you love him and know he won't change so you want to have an open relationship. This means you will be free to see other people as well. But you have to set some rules (condoms, etc.). Either way is better than keeping things the same.

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A female reader, Mercyy Ghana +, writes (14 December 2012):

Mercyy is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Mercyy agony auntThanks to y'all who answered me...I am so grateful for your thought...it hurts me cus I truly love him but I think u guys have made me know that I have to love myself more...I will take your advice.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (14 December 2012):

Honeypie agony auntHe cheats because he can and because he wants to.

Love doesn't fix everything. What about when he comes home with a STD and render you infertile? Or get you sick? Just because he loved getting laid more then he loves you.

I'm sure he tells every girls he sleeps with that he loves them in hope that they will stick around. JUST like you are.

Dump him. Want more for yourself.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (14 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHe does not love you enough. He may not really love you at all.

He loves himself more than anyone.

I would call it quits.

Tell him the way he loves you is not good enough. You deserve better.

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A female reader, EbonyBlossom United Kingdom +, writes (14 December 2012):

EbonyBlossom agony auntIf he loved you, he wouldnt do it, but he wants to have his cake and eat it which is why he tells you he loves you and that you shouldnt worry. Dont give him what he wants because its not fair on you or the other girls he may be lying to - get out now and give yourself the chance to find someone better.

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A female reader, Tatiana101 Canada +, writes (14 December 2012):

Do you have proof he's cheating? If you do then leave, let him know you love him but your not going to be playing games and you deserve much better then that. Keep your head up.

If you stay with him and you have proof he's cheating your going to look like the fool for putting up with that. If he truly loved you he wouldn't want to hurt you like that.

If you don't have proof then don't worry about it. If he's acting like you should know he wouldn't do that to you because he loves you then he's probably right. Just talk to him about what's making you think that he's cheating and let him know it's hurting you.

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