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He tells me I can date otheres, even though we sleep together! What should I make of this guy?

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Question - (31 January 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 8 March 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Sorry, I know your probably sick of hearing about my "relationship" of the guy who Im friends with and sleep with but, I had a conversation with him a few nights ago before I went away on holiday and he said I could sleep with another guy if I wanted to. I asked if he felt okay with that after I went off with my because he made it clear we weren't going to have a relationship and he said "well your not going to see him and leave me, so no" why shud he say this when he left me for another girl?

What does this mean? Is he playing me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008):

reading this really pisses me off! stop letting him use you!!! ERRR!!! i hope that guy gets what he deserves!!!!! i know he does not deserve you! move on if you know what you are worth!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008):

Okay first of all, all these posts are right. No matter how a guy puts it in a nice, romantic way, but the minute he wants friends with benefits, it means he is too immature to have a relationship with full consequences,..if he doens't tell you this up front. Secondly, if he tells you this up front, and you still sleep with him, hoping to have a relationship, he will put it back on you and say its your responsibility as well, that he stated he did not want a relationship. Clearly this guy is sleeping around and is only using you for sex. Based on some wise advice, I think the minute the guy says you are friends, it should be platonic. And if he is emotionally unavailable (Eg. he only wants sex, no relationship or friends with benefits, then he just wants Sex that is it) then you should high tail it out of there. Every girl can find something better and if you keep giving him what he wants while he blatantly flaunts the fact he wants you to date others well, he doesn't really seem to care don't give him any more ego boosts by giving your body to him anymore. I suggest this book: Dating without Drama - just google it and its about 25 bucks for the ebook but it will help alot. Good luck. You know you deserve better than this and you can think straight with your head to know that you need to drop this fker like a rock, because friends "real friends" dont use the other for sex.

much love.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007):

drop this dog. he just tells you this because he is already sleeping with others. this is a great way to get a bad self esteem and quite possibly an std

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007):

I think that the only reason he said that u could sleep with other guys is so that he can sleep with other girls, sorry xx

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntYes, to be honest it sounds to me like he wants you to have someone else so he doesn't feel guilty about all the girls he has and then if he wants to leave you he can do so, using your new partner as an excuse. He's only using you for sex. You can do so much better!


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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (1 February 2007):

Yes I would say he is "playing you". It seems to me that you guys dont have a relatiosnhip at all and he is just using you for sex, hence why he said you could sleep with other guys. If I was you, i would stop sleeping with him. It sounds like you probably like him alot and actualy do want a relationship and if this is a case, settling for being just his 'sex buddy' is not the way to go. You will just constantly feel let down as you beguin to realise that nothing more will come out of this 'relationship' as it will continue to just be sex. If you want more out of this then you have to stop doing this with him and find a guy who is willing to give you more- and trust me there are many out there who will. So dont sell yourself short.

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