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He takes me for granted and I want to leave him. What's my best strategy?

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Question - (11 December 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 13 December 2015)
A female India age 26-29, anonymous writes:

i hate everything my boyfriend says or does he has become a pain in my ass.....

He is self centered and only treats me like a lump of shit...he is 24 hours on a stupid game...on his phone i dont mean anything to him he isnt how he was...he has started taking me for granted..i dont know what to do...i want to leave him...and he doesnt let me do so!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2015):

Since you told it's a game he always sticks with. just before leaving him why don't you join the game with him. I know it may sound awkward and funny. But all I am saying is just try. I play game most of the time(not always sheesh) and tbh I always wanted someone to play with. The relationship grows deeper when you do things together, isn't it?? Rest depends on you. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . -Dante

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (12 December 2015):

Ciar agony auntWhat do you mean he doesn't let you? Do you live with him?

Once one person says it's over, it's over so I don't understand what the problem is.

If you live with him, then find out if you can move back in with your parents. If they agree then start quietly moving your valuables back there. Once you have what you want to take, and you've left send him an email telling him it's over and warn him never to contact you again.

You don't need his or anyone's permission to break up. You just do it.

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A female reader, Tottochan India +, writes (12 December 2015):

If it really is that unbearable then the right thing that you should do is to end it.

As the other aunty was asking, how does he not let you leave? Does he cry or throw a fit? If there is too much drama in this relationship, it'll be tough to talk sense.

Is he abusive? Physically/emotionally? If he is physically abusive then make SURE that you break up with him either in a public place, which is safe, or in your friend's home - basically, some place where you have your loved ones close to you, who will protect you, and dissuade him from trying anything scary. OR you could just tell him via phone.

Also, irrespective of what he says or does, make sure to not contact him. That will just give him false hope or encourage him to keep contacting you.

If this is not what you want, make a clean break. You can always break up with him - that decision is in *your* hands, not his. But you have to stay away from drama and stick to your decisions.

All the best.

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (12 December 2015):

Ivyblue agony aunt please explain a bit more what you mean he doesn't let you leave?

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