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writes:I don't know whats wrong with my boyfriend - he's really bad at sex. We have sex daily but he comes so quickly. He comes within 3 minutes and it's really frustrating because obviously I need more than that. We will end up having sex like 3 times a day because i'm not satisfied lol. What can he do so that he doesn't come so quickly? After he's finished coming he just lies on top of me and I get so annoyed. I just want him to get off of me because I'm not enjoying anything and I didn't come. Why does he just lie on top of me for a couple of minutes and then gets up? Another thing is I have never gotten an orgasm with him. He is really bad at giving me oral sex and he says he doesnt want to do it anymore. I don't think its fair that I give him oral sex whenever he wants it and he doesn't want to give it to me in return. Can anyone give any tips on what to do?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (21 January 2007):
 The first thing to do is to be honest with him and tell him what you need.
If you do not let him know how to give you more pleasure, how will he know what to do?
Show him how to pleasure you, try to have more foreplay before penetration so that you are more turned on ahead of him.
Some men suffer from premature ejaculation and need support and help on how to overcome this. Have you recommended to him that he sees a doctor?
Also there are lots of products on the market which can reduce premature ejaculation.
If a guy came, and immediately jumped out of me, I would see it as selfish, but if you do not like him lie there, you must tell him in a nice way without trying to hurt his feelings.
The fact that he can make love 3 times a day shows that he has potential to increase time per session but just needs advice himself.
If your guy knows that he is not giving you pleasure with oral sex, he may have lost the motivation to do again. Show him how you like it, when he does something right, show your apreciation to motivate him to carry on.
Take more control of sexual moves, get him to play with you for a while, then jump on top of him so that you can have an orgasm.
If you feel comfortable with it, get him to play with you and try some toys before initiating penetration. Hopefully by the time he comes, you have been and gone.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): maybe he is nervous
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): I think you need more foreplay, you need to enjoy his fingers ;-
Suggest that he pleases you before he pleases himself. Why does he not want to perform oral sex?
He can also get condoms that desensitise him. He can also train himself through masturbation to last longer.
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