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He stopped texting after we had sex, what should I do?

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Question - (2 September 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 2 September 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

okay so there is this guy that i have been talking to kind of and we before we started talking we were always really flirty and stuff so finally he gave me his number and we talked a little but not to much and then recently we started talking a lot more and We started hanging out and stuff and hes the kind of guy that is hard to text like he doesnt respond to every message but hell still keep the convo going and still text me and stuff and then last week he came over and we hung out with some friends and he spent the night and we cuddled all night and kissed and things were great and he asked where i thought it was going and i said i handnt thought about it and he said me either and we both decided t0 go with the flow and see what happens.. well the next night he came over again and we had been drinking and we ended up having sex... it wasnt awkward or anything the next morning he gave me a kiss goodbye and we talked after that and then on day he stopped replying.. i told him i would text him when i was done with stuff and he never replied so i figured he was just waiting for me to get done and then i texted him saying back and no reply.. so i waited till the next night and texted him one more time just to see.. and still no reply? what should i do?

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A female reader, Over..worried.  Canada +, writes (2 September 2010):

Over..worried.  agony auntWell, there is a chance he took advantage of you.

Another chance is it could be freak timing like that day he is really.

He could or could not reply. But ... i am very sorry to say this but I think he is using you.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2010):

DrPsych agony auntBasically if a man is really into you then they will find a way to call you, knock on your door or send you an email. Don't chase him with text messages. It was just a fling for him. If he does get back in touch at a later date be very careful about starting anything with him. You need to be with a man who is attentive to you, or at least respectful enough to answer your calls (it only takes a minute to ring and say hello). If he cannot be bothered he is either disrespectful (i.e. would have been a bad boyfriend), or a coward (i.e. doesn't want to tell you he is not after a relationship).

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010):

Caring guy why would you say she was used?

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A female reader, vember United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2010):

Give it time. It's only been a couple of days. Which is nothing really. Patience. He'll probably get back to you with a perfectly reasonable excuse. If not, then I would agree you've been used. He seemed to put too much effort into just using someone though.

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A female reader, sizzling1 Nigeria +, writes (2 September 2010):

there's very little you CAN do..stop sending him text messages..let him come to you. and if he turns up on your doorstep wanting to spend the night AGAIN, bounce him...hard!!!

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A female reader, sizzling1 Nigeria +, writes (2 September 2010):

there's very little you CAN do..stop sending him text messages..let him come to you. and if he turns up on your doorstep wanting to spend the night AGAIN, bounce him...hard!!!

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2010):

I usually work on the three day rule. If he hasn't got back to you again in three days, then chances are you've been used. If that's the case, then you need to move on.

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (2 September 2010):

Jmtmj agony auntSo how long has he not been texting since he last saw you exactly?

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