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writes:I have a problem. It's not a big problem but I just need a bit of advice. I've just got together with this bloke, he's 18 and I'm 16. The age doesn't bother me but I think it bothers him a little. We have only been together for about 3 days and he has been very clingy the past 2 days. He is always asking me if I've cheated on him or if I will. But the thing is I also think he might cheat on me. I know that trust plays a huge part in a relationship so is it best I end it? I really like him though and he always says he likes me a lot and he doesn't want anyone else but me but it all seems a bit too good to be true sometimes. Other blokes I've been with have been completly different, they always try it on and all they cared about was sexual things. Whereas my new bloke is very differnt, he showers me with compliments and tells me I'm his one and only.. and it all seems a bit much. Maybe it's because I've never been treated like that before and I'm finding it hard to believe. Please help me sort this out!! x Reply to this Question |
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (17 July 2007):
 I tend to agree with GreenTea, I would worry a bit about him coming on so strong, guys like this tend to split just as fast once you get knocked off the pedestal he has put you on, which of course you will because you are human after all.
I would just take things slow, and don't let him talk you into more than what you want...trust you gut, as you are now, and you will be fine...you know he doesn't really know you well enough for you to be the one, he is infatuated with you, and only time will tell how things develop between the two of you.
You are both very young and in my opinion are too young to settle down, enjoy dating and having fun together, life is long, so don't be in a hurry or rush things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Hey my boyfriends like that and was like that from the very beginning we've been together 8 months and I don't regret one day.Obviously this guy worships you - thats not a bad thing.Other boys like you said were just after one thing.Most women think there are no nice guys left but there are a few and its looks like me and you have got our hands on two of them.Just don't worry about it if hes asked you if youve cheated on him my boyfriend did too but its only because his previous girlfriend cheated on him so he had a few trust issues now i've shown him he can trust me.Give him some credit yeah he obviously really likes you and dont doubt a word he says or he will feel you dont trust him leading him to believe he cant trust you.If you love each other thats one thing buts its not enough to keep a relationship together. You've got to have trust.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (17 July 2007):
He has a lack of confidence. that is why he is worried about the whole cheating thing. Talk to him about it. ask him why he does that and if he gives you an honest answer than keep him. if he doesen't I would lose him. Enjoy the compliments while they last, they will slow down.
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