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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, im 20 years old. me and my boyfriend been together for 2 years and 2 months. we just got into an argument about communicating. im the type that like to keep everything in and he's not. we both have a my space page and he doesnt want me with one. on my page it has pictures of me and him and he said that was just a cover up. all me friends on my page he know because they graduted with us. so one day he made another page and put a picture of another guy and wrote me. he said i was beautiful and i wrote back thank you and he ask can we im message each other from time to time and i said yeah. so my boyfriend came to my house yesterday and accuss me if cheating andd im not cheating on him i love him with all my heart and i would do anything in the world for him and heknows that. now he say he doesnt trust me and i was like he probley didnt trust me from the start because if he did he would of made a nother page and put a picture of another guy to see want i would do. i just need help i dont know what to do any more. every time we sit done and talk he always bring up my ex boyfrined like i still like him. he told me that i am holding something back from him and that is pushing him away from me and he thinks that im still in love with my ex. i need to know what should i do because he said it all up to me if i dont want him anymore i should let him know. but i dont want to lose him i really love him with all my heart. he alway listen to his friends to see what he should do. i just dont know how to tell him whats on my mind because we always fighting about something and i really dont know what to say if i do tell him how i feel. help me please
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reader, shawn styles  +, writes (15 April 2007):
Hello Anon,
You ARE entitled to a MySpace page don't let your guy tell you otherwise. It seems to be double standards if he can have one and you can't.
I think that having a picture of you and your BF is a nice gesture because it shows that you value him and your relationship. I think though, that how much personal information you have on your page should be within the compromises of your relationship.
As for your present situation, I think that you will learn from this and remember to always tell any would-be admirers about your relationship situation, depending on how serious you have agreed that you are.
Your boyfriend is allowed to be upset we all have different levels of tolerance. But in this case, you did nothing wrong, unless you were going to take your relationship with this fake guy one step further.
You need to talk to your man, away from the influences of others and sort this out. You might cheat one day, but if you honestly haven't (e.g. made love with your ex whilst being with your present man) and don't have feelings for him then you have nothing to worry about.
If your fella can't accept your views on life then you might not be compatible at this time, but any big decisions like that have to come from you alone.
Good luck finding out the answers.
Shawn Styles x x x
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reader, charlieswoofas +, writes (14 April 2007):
 You need to confront him about not being able to talk things through, if you cannot discuss issues then you will live life believeing everything you think which may be a load of rubbish, that goes for both of you.
It sounds like he is a little paranoid about you cheating, in some cases a little paranoya is good as it can show the paranoid one that they are wrong and nothing is going on behind their back, but he seems to think you are cheating just because you spoke to a guy!
He will have to understand that friends consist of people of both sexes and it doesnt mean you want to jump into bed with every male you talk to, i suggest you calmly tell him that you want him and only him but you will have male friends. Maybe all he is looking for is youre reassurance without getting into a fight over having to talk about serious relationship issues.
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