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He seen me in my bikini, got a boner and now he's angry at me!

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Question - (8 April 2011) 9 Answers - (Newest, 8 April 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Ok so the other week I went on holiday to the seaside and another family who are really close. So on the last day I wanted to go swimming but the only other person who wanted to was a boy my age from the other family. So after I got changed into my bikini I went to meet him. When I got there he said I looked nice. Then I looked at him and saw he had a boner. He went bright red and ran off an we didn't speak from then. He only spoke to me the other day when he made me swear not to tell anyone. He seemed really angry at me and I don't know what to do now he wot talk to me. What should I do now and what did it mean when he got the boner ? I'm really confused now about what to do and what it meant , please help !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

He ain't angry at you he's just embarssed that you saw he got a boner.And especially if someone saw that he got one.

And tell him he shouldn't be mad at you he should be mad at Mother Nature or Father Nature whatever causes it.

Hope i helped!!:))

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (8 April 2011):

dirtball agony auntOh man, this brings me back. Everyone is right, and YouWish and k_c100 really nailed this one. The joys of inappropriate boners. Man, I still get them occasionally. Thankfully I have years of practicing hiding them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

he's not angry at you,he's probably just embarrassed. you clearly must of looked good in your bikin. he's just probably angry at his self cause he couldnt control himself,no boy can stop getting erection. my boyfriend was with me last week in my house and he got a boner over me in my shorts and bra when we was going to a party,i have double-D boobs though and iv told some of his mates and they said well i couldnt blame him. just be glad at the fact a boy got a boner over you,i know i was:-)

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2011):

k_c100 agony auntHe's not angry - just embarassed! He obviously got an erection because you looked good in your bikini, teenage boys can get erections very easily and often when it is inappropriate because of all their hormones raging around. So when it happened he was clearly very embarassed and now just wants to make sure you dont tell anyone.

Just try and be as normal around him as possible, dont mention it and act like nothing happened. Hopefully if you are normal with him then he will start to forget about it and will be more comfortable around you again.

Try not to think about it too much - this is just a teenage boy getting an erection when he saw a pretty girl in a bikini. It doesnt mean anything, it just means he is a normal teenage boy! Act normal around him and dont mention it again, and all will be fine.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

I agree with the other answers, but surely you aren't saying you don't know what it meant for him to get an erection on seeing you in your bikini?

If you have to ask the question, you couldn't possibly understand the answer!

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A male reader, Mr Husband United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2011):

I have to agree with the other answers; he's embarassed and angry with himself, not you. Speaking as former teenage boy myself it happens and it lead to many a time sat hunched over in a chair desperately trying to hide an otherwise obvious tent.

Take it as a compliment (you must have looked good to him!) but be sure not to mock or tease him about it. YouWish's suggestion on how to handle this is exactly right. Good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

"what did it mean when he got the boner?"

Is this a serious question??? A girl he knows, and no doubt a pretty one, he sees for the first time in a bikini and you ask why he gets a boner? Come-on, surely you can put 2 and 2 together...

The kid is just embarressed, nothing more! And what guy in his situation wouldn't get a boner?? Give the guy a break!

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (8 April 2011):

Anonymous 123 agony auntOh he's not angry at you. He's just very, VERY embarrassed, and the way he's projecting that embarrassment onto you, is by getting angry at himself.

Dont make it any worse for him. He's a young guy, he got an erection looking at a pretty girl in a bikini. Can you blame him??!! Just be calm around him, if he acts too difficult, just tell him that he's over-reacting. These things happen. You're not going to tell anyone anything, because there's nothing to tell. Simple.

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (8 April 2011):

YouWish agony auntI doubt that he's angry at you...he's most likely super embarrassed that you noticed his "tent". Imagine how you would feel around him if your bikini top had come open revealing your breasts to him. You'd feel embarrassed, awkward, and probably avoiding of him.

If he says anything else, just play it cool, maybe compliment his "hardware", and assure him with a smile that his secret is safe with you! If he doesn't, just go to him, act really nice, and pretend as if you never saw anything. The trick is to get him past his awkwardness. It happens...he's human!

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