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writes:Ok I'm really confused...I met this really nice guy online, it started off really slow then we went on a date and we kissed and stayed up late talking, he then stayed at mine, nothing happened just kissing - it was great! We went on another date which again went really well, we went out for drinks and again he stayed at mine, kissing nothing else and getting to know each other, woke up the next day as I had to leave at 8am for an appointment so he left too and gave me a kiss on the cheek??? I offered to drive him to the station as it was on the way but he said 'No it's ok, Im going to walk'. I got a text from him later in the day saying he'd left his keys at my flat and when I got home they were there on the table... Today - Monday he asked if he could come over and pick them up after work and said yes after 6 as I'll be home from work. I thought he might at least stay for a drink... He came over I had a glass of wine in my hand and asked him if he wanted a drink he said he had to get back, but then asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema on Sat which I said yes to, he then left.... he couldn't get out fast enough.... really strange, he seems very into me when he's had a drink, but he was clearly sober this evening and asked me to the cinema.... what's going on??
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 December 2014):
 he didn't stay because he slots you in the "maybe she's girlfriend material and I don't want to move too quickly" category.
It's good he asked you to the cinema on Saturday. He's interested in more than just slap and tickle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): I think he was uncomfortable staying in your house and drinking. That's a actally good sign. He asked you out, what are you worrying about?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 December 2014):
 I think he was pretty nervous. But I also think it was a good sign that he ASKED you out on a "real" date, not just to come snog you on your couch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): I think he is into you but like Janniepeg said he is either more nervous when he is sober or just trying to take things slower and get to know you better, which is nice. He would not of asked you to the movies that far in advance if he was not into you ! Good luck :)
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (16 December 2014):
Maybe he's the kind of guy who needs "liquid courage" before he gets all passionate.
He asked you out again though, so he's still interested.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (16 December 2014):
 jenniepeg is right. he's just on the "reduced speed" side of things give it time, you'll get what you want later.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 December 2014):
 He's still into you, he just didn't want to have sex so soon because he wants to get to know you better. When he's sober he still has the desire for physical, it's just that the alcohol lowered his inhibitions. You just met him, so to do more than kissing could be coming on too strong. At least for him. It depends on how long you've been talking for. He may be too slow moving for you. I myself don't like to see people drinking at the early stages. He could be drinking to ease the first date nerves. I think you took his nervousness as disinterest. He just wants to be cautious and take it slow. Which is a good sign.
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