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writes:Dear cupid lately iv been feeling lonely i haven't been been talking to any guys because i feel that they do not care. i have a friend who iv had a crush on since i was 15 a few months ago we made out and tried to start a relationship but he says "i need to get my life in order, and i know this sounds selfish but wait for me" iv been waiting for now 3 months and he shows no sign of interest he claims he cares but i don't think he does hes always blowing me off saying "im gonna come see you" but the day of he cancels. my friends tell me to move on but its just hard to iv fallen in love iv known him for 3 years soon gonna be 4 do you think i should still go for it or just keep going with life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2013): OP you need to trust your friends. Not only are they right and you know it, love hasn't made you blind or stupid, but you need to trust what you know is the right thing to do by yourself in this situation.
What do you think is the right way to deal with this objectively? 3 months and nothing, time to walk away.
You did what you said you, you waited. Now let him go completely, completely cut him out of your life and see if that ignites something in him. If not you're already in the process of moving on anyway so you can't lose.
OP don't you think, after 3 years of pining for a guy you haven't been able to get and when you finally make your move he tells you wait and does nothing after 3 months, it's time to move on?
If there is ever going to be anything between you, then he'll step up instead of losing you. And by step up I mean give you a shot, not just some more wait for me bullshit.
It's time, 3 years is too long to be stuck on one person you can't have. So shit or get off the pot OP.
Your dignity and pride must be at an all time low right now allowing yourself to be dangled on a string this way. Time to take control here OP, and it's time you moved forward with your life without this crushing loneliness and false hope. He's just not that into you.
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