A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend since i was 16 im 23 now. Our sex life has always been good but now he has been saying im too loose and he thinks im cheating on him, which im not!! I have been feeling the difference also but im not sure why my vagina is loose.. What should i do??
View related questions:
sex life, vagina Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2016): The same vagina can also feel different depending on how wet you are, which can change with age.
A
male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 April 2016):
 Tell him that, even if what he says were true, he would still have to take you as you are, or leave. His choice.
...............................
A
female
reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (12 April 2016):
 Omg! I've heard of this happening, don't worry. His penis shrunk cause he's slowly but surely turning into a douche. There's a cure for this, but it might hurt him a bit since he'd have to admit to being an idiot. Vaginas change! Certain times of the month make us looser or tighter depending on fertility etc. He can't appreciate a woman who finds him an exciting turn-on? Well, too bad. It's quite insulting and ignorant to accuse you of cheating because you feel different. Automatically, he blames you. That's not right, dear. How would it feel if you accuse him of having a smaller penis? Not so good I'd think.
...............................
A
male
reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (11 April 2016):
When young men can no longer perform the way they should...it is never their fault... right???? Of course it has to be the woman....Sorry, but your guy is an immature dumbass.
When a woman gets really wet, she is very excited for her man, so he slips in there to easy, and "oh..you must be cheating." There could be no other reason??
What I have seen amount young men who come up with this excuse is...He is planing to leave you for someone else, and looking for a way out...best way...cheating. It is the age old excuse among men to get out of a relationship.
Not saying he is actually planing this...but I would be careful.
So I guess he must be the one cheating on you...since he is so experience with vaginas to tell the difference between those that are loose, and those that are not???
You feel what he feels, because that is all you hear from him. Since you want to please him so much, you would feel anything he feels. You have not had sex with yourself to feel what he feels. So....DO NOT degrade yourself, when you have done nothing but offer yourself to someone who does not appreciate it.
Maybe the only thing loose is the screw in his head.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 April 2016):
 Ah another ignorant man who thinks a vagina is the same as an old sock. That if a bigger dick enters a vagina it will stretch and be loose for the rest of eternity.
Seriously. Giving birth will stretch the vagina (because it HAS to.) But for MOST women it will go back to the same shape (or very close) It can take from 3 months to 12 months to revert back, which is NO wonder considering HOW big a baby (even a premature one) is, let alone an average size baby.
Weight-gain can also affect the muscle tissues.
Kegel exercises can help keep the vagina in shape as well. Plus the added bonus, Kegel's is that something you can do ANYWHERE and ANY TIME.
It IS more likely that he is NOT quite as hard as he used to be and that YOU are more lubricated and relaxed. When you are relaxed, around and lubricated the vagina is "looser" in a sense. However... that has nothing to do with cheating.
If you feel like something is not right, go see your GYN. But DO remember your BF is NOT right. Cheating doesn't alter the inside measurement of the vagina, that is absolute BS.
One thing I like to point out... CHEATERS often accuse their partners of being unfaithful to put said partner on the defensive.. typical cheater trick.. so MAYBE if any cheating is going on... HE is the one doing it?
...............................
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 April 2016):
 I agree with Cindy. A vagina doesn't just suddenly become loose, but a penis can become flaccid. Your boyfriend is older than you? I guess he has gotten to the point where he experiences problems maintaining an erection, and then he blames you for it.
He sounds like a real time jerk, to be honest. These sort of accusations are deal breakers to any woman (except the ones who have been brain washed into thinking they deserve such treatment). LEAVE!
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 April 2016):
 I think you are feeling the difference because your bf is brainwashing you into believing that there is a difference. Biut how your vagina could have suddenly loosened at 23 ? Only if you JUST had had a baby ( and it would go back to normal within few months anyway ), or if you had gained 80 pounds in a year, or you had been affected by some weird muscular disease. A vagina is composed of exceptionally resilient and elastic muscle, before you can perceive any change, maaaany years and many hormonal changes have to intervene.
If you want to rest easy, go to see your OB/GYN just in case there's something weird healthwise going on- after which, 99,99% you will also have medical endorsement to officially call your bf an insecure idiot.
Yes, because , even if you HAD been cheating on him, how that would loosen yor vagina ?! maybe if you were cheating on him with a horse, not with another human being, no matter how well endowed.
Apparently ,your bf, beside not trusting you, is also so ignorant to believe that if you had close encounters with a penis a few millimeters thicker than his, that would be enough to " ruin " your vagina. Sigh... Buy him some anatomy textbook and show him this is not the case . Or, better and faster, get yourself another less misinformed boyfriend .
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2016): It might be a good idea to see your doctor and talk with her/him about this problem.
...............................
|
