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*ittleTwoLegs
writes:My guy says I'm too quiet in the bedroom--so much so that he sort of looses his train of thought and feels like he's wasting his time when we're physical together! He's talked to me about it, and I've just said I like to be able to relax and not put on a show because it feels better that way.I guess I don't make a lot of sound...but I *do* want him to know I like it! How can I go about this without "faking it?" I mean, he shares a room in an apartment (we don't do anything when his roomate is there, mind) so sometimes I am a little self-conscious about people in the common room. I want him to know I think he does great and that I enjoy it, but I also want to remain genuine about it! Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 My advice to your question depends on one thing only. Are you trying to be quiet when you have sex out of fear of being overheard or embarassed? If so go with your natural instincts a bit more. You'll enjoy sex much more if you relax. However if you're naturally quite quiet tell your boyfriend this. Tell him it's not that you don't enjoy sex because you do but to make more noise just to please him would be faking it.
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reader, Yuna~  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 For me, intimacy must be when both parties are not afraid of the surrounding. It is hard when you’re afraid to be heard. I understand we girls tend to get all shy about showing our enjoyment in sex. I do too. One thing you can easily do and effectively to show your bf you’re enjoying it, is closing your eyes. You can also show him through your heavy breathing. Guys tend to value how much the girl is enjoying sex (at least the guys that love you). It is very important in a relationship to communicate. Tell him you’re afraid to be heard. It’s the truth and it doesn’t hurt to tell your bf. You should also tell him how you feel about “showing your intimacy”. I hope this helps.
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reader, PortugueseGal +, writes (4 April 2007):
Hi lol I had the same situation,its maybe because your shy too,and when your all done you'll be shy to talk about it. plus when my boyfriend is doing what he does to me, he has to ask me if i like it and i say yes...i really do like it but i am shy to moan and groan. just have confidence, and he will love u for it..trust me. xxx
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