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writes: I have a boyfriend who tells me he loves me all the time in person and over the phone, etc. The problem is when he says it in person to me he never looks me in the face. What does this mean? I would think someone whould look you in the face if they ment it. So I am guessing he does not mean it, since he cannot look me in the face. When someone is lying to you they will not look you in the face, right? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Not all the time...sometimes he could just be thinking in his head how much he loves u or maybe hes alittle too shy to look u in the face while he says it. Hey i might not have good advice but i will try my hardiest. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and 2months and i feel like he is cheating on me..he says he wont and he told me he will tell me if he likes another girl so i said and do u he says NO!!!! I dont know wheather to believe him or not i just wish i could know what he is thinking about all the time!!! Im so scared i dont wanna lose him at all cause if i do i dont know what I'd do!!! I hoped I kind of helped you if not im really sorry!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): i dont think so because probally he only wants sex!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): okai i'm guesing he doesn't love you becuz if he did he wud loOk at you wen sayin i ove you i've been through da same situation so trust me here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): wel, i'm only 15 and alot of people say that may not know any thing about love, but i have a boyfriend for a while and every time he says that he loves me he looks me in the eyes and i really can feel whether he is lying or not. and if he doesn't want to but you ask him to and he does, if he is lying you would just feel what he is really trying to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): i dont think he loves, or it can be that he loves u but he is a shy person who is scared to come out straight up and say his feelings without looking right into your eyes. or it could be that he is just saying it to make u happy but either way u ask him why he cant look u right in ur eyes and say that he loves u.. u should persist on him doing that and if he cant then he doesnt love u like he says
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): i met mike awhile ago and did not want to get involved with him because he had a girlfriend but he persisted, now he says he loves me but is waiting for his girlfriend to call it off because he does'nt want to hurt her. i don't want to keep sleeping with him unless he is ready to commit but can't help wanting him. He is much older than me 31, im 23 but acts very young. should i wait for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): i kno how ur feeling. my boyfriend is doing the same thing.. id have to say give it some time. look him in the eyes and say i love you [[that is.. if ur ready]] if he looks back into ur eyesand says it and then kisses you and holds you close. it prolly means that he does.
me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks.. and he said i love you for the first time over the phone a week ago. how can you possibly kno ur in love when itz only been three weeks. please help me. what do i say?? or do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007):
i think he means what he says, maybe he thinks you will think he's stupid if he starts to act all romantic. my best friend fancied my boyfriend and she startde making up stuff i started to believe her coz she always use to spy on us and say she sor him and he met her and stuff and every tym he asked her y she was sayin it she sed she was on wizz. any way i started to believe her and i thought he was lying wen he was telling me he loved me so we spoke and sorted everything owt. maybe you and your boyfriend should sit down and talk abowt how you feel coz will start to believe dat he dnt love you if u think it to much and he most probs duz. i almost finished my boyfriend and he started to cry it was the first tym i had eva sin him cry b4 thats wen i believed him. i think u should sit down and have a good chat ask him if he wants to be with u n that you dnt fink he means it wen he tells u he loves u, tell him to tell u he loves you looking in ur eyes then u will no. good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): yes, it's true in a way, i have a girlfriend who i love to bits, but i cant look her in the eyes and say it as i dont really like eye contact! its wierd but true, hope this solves part of your problem!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): he probley doesnt no if u feel the same way about him and he doesnt want to look like an idiot if he says i love u when his with you show him that you appreciate him and kiss him on the lips (well thats wat i do)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): well.... you need to ask how he fells about you and ask him if he really loves you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): ok if he does not look you in your face and tell you he loves you he must not mean it because he feels like he is embrassed from loving you. that mean he loves you but he can't say it. thats what i think
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006):
I believe that is correct in some cases I have a boy friend we've been going out for about 2years he never looked me in the eyes until almost the first six months but he would always try to kiss me any where he could so don't be worried he'll come around stay possitive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2006): my boyfriend said he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, I have suspected he's cheating on me with my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2005): There can be many reasons why he finds it hard to look you in the eye while saying it. If he truely does love you then, I believe at the core of it comes from insecurities. The relationship could just start heading to a new level and he has strong feelings for you, but feels uneasy about revealing it to you face to face. Given enough time without pressure, he'll be able to be more emotionally open with you.
Or there could be the fact he feels obligated to say this. Perhaps he feels pressured? You didn't go into detail about who comes to who first when saying "I love you." So all you can do is just simply ask him or let him slowly come around.
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reader, pops +, writes (30 July 2005):
If he can't look you in the eyes, he does not mean it. Period. That's his problem. Yes, he has been hurt, and that may explain why he is reluctant to love again. But, that is his problem. Don't make it yours. If he truly loves you, he will look you in the eyes, take your face gently in his hands, and tell you as affectionately as possible that he loves you, and wants to be with you always.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (30 July 2005):
 Consider this: telling someone that you love them is pretty tough. There's a potential for being laughed at or rejected or being told you're being silly... and all that without even considering that the person you're telling it to might not believe you!
I think you're being 'way too hard on this guy. Give him the benefit of the doubt! Accept the gift that he's trying to give you! He says he loves you; why don't you take that at face value? What has he done that you suspect his motives? And why are you trying so hard to squeeze him into a relationship mould that might not suit his personality? Is your fantasy about the *way* that he tells you he loves you so much more important than the fact that he's found the courage to say it?
Unless he's routinely adding some "rider" to it, like "I love you; now will you loan me $5000?" or "I love you, so how about we have sex right now?" then it's entirely possible that he's just shy about saying it out loud, and finds it easier when you're not right there in front of him.
The fact that he doesn't try to stare you down with big, bulging eyes when he says it suggests that he feels a bit unsure about whether you'll respond favourably. And, given the suspicion that you're treating him with, no wonder he's shy. Good grief, accept what he says, unless his actions prove otherwise. Or unless you have some good reason to think that he's lying.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (29 July 2005):
If he doesnt have any trouble making eye contact in other situations I would question whether he means it or not.
On the other hand, why would he say it if he didnt mean it?
Only you can judge whether he is telling the truth or not. look at his actions and attitude towards you and this will tell you if he loves you or not.
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reader, madmatt +, writes (29 July 2005):
You might not be wrong but you must take his past into consideration. If he's been hurt before then he might be scared to look into your eyes and tell you how he feels. As someone that has been hurt before and now seeing someone new I can understand why he may be cutious. The guy my also feel like he has to say he loves you as to not upset you or make you feel awkward. It's a hard problem but the best advise I could give would ne to just talk to the guy, one on one and explain your feelings. If he doesn't understand then he's not the one. Good luck, be strong.
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