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He says he isnt the jealous type,but I think he is!?

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Question - (20 April 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, *ach91 writes:

My boyfriend of 4 months tells me he's not the jealous type but when he asks me what I did in my day and I tell him I went out with my best guy friend/former ex...he tells me I annoy him cuz' I keep mentioning his name when I'm telling him what I did that day...then I tell him well I was w/ him all day what else am I suppose to say...idk I think he is jealous but then he says he's not...help!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007):

why are you even going out with your ex bf.. Thats wrong...

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A female reader, alita Mexico +, writes (20 April 2007):

Your boyfriend is right in being jealous and more if you keep mentioning your ex. You have to be honest with yourself. Why jeopardize your current relationship just because of your ex? Or perhaps you still have feelings for your ex?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007):

I have thought that in most cases, close friendships with exes always, always interfere with all subsequent relationships. Sometimes, it's better to say a 'final goodbye' to exes, instead of saying "we'll see you around". I am sure your bf is a bit jealous, but it's because he is fearful of losing you and is likely feeling some hurt. Next time, you want to spend time with this ex bf/friend of yours, ask your bf to come along and let him see you both interacting together. That might put his mind to rest and reassure him, he has nothing to worry about.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007):

I agree with the two posters here. If men and women do not display any form of jealousy, wouldn't that also be cause for worry, that possibly that don't think much about the relationship with you in the first place?

Remember that humans by nature have emotions, either negative or positive and everything in between. It is impossible to be indifferent and modest all the way through, especially when you spend time with someone whom you were intimate with, and now though you are with your current boyfriend, history is still alive and going, even if it's in the form of friendship.

If my gf met up with her ex, I would try to look modest and loveable, but in fact, I would probably get a bit jealous and worry a bit as well, AND feel quite discomfortable considering that in my mind, you and him once kissed, held hands, hugged, and did other similar intimate things. What would you expect? That your current bf smile all the time and either pretend to be 100% confident, and/or 100% indifferent?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007):

That dusnt mean hes jealous type, means hes normal.

I wouldnt like it if my girlfriend socialised and talked about ex boyfriends. This is natural as an ex to a current is a potential threat.Not jealousy - just natural.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (20 April 2007):

kenny agony auntI think the thing to bear in mind hear is this guy you go out with is not just a best guy mate, but an ex boyfriend. He is someone you have been intimate with, shared time with, laugh and joked with. I can see why your boyfriend is abit jealous, i don't think there are many men that woulden't be to be honest.

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