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writes:I met someone almost a yr ago. It took him along time to kiss me. He came out of a relationship. HE is divorced no kids. This is my problem he doesn't want a serious relationship (which to me serious we hang out about 3 to 4 times a week which we already do). Today he goes and says to me if we had a child he would be ugly between our height difference and him being chubby and our noses. I got upset if he doesn't want a serious relationship then why did he mention child. This came from left field. We do have a 13 yr age difference I am 33 he is 46. I can't walk away from him if he doesn't want this then why doesn't he leave?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 I agree with Jovial, he probably was only joking.
Joke or not, the possibility has occured to him, at least thought about it even though for a few seconds.
How long ago before saying he does not want a serious relationship and meantioning child?
He may be not ready for commitment because of previous relationship.
Either way you need to talk to him about it to settle matters once and for all.
Regardless if he wants a baby or not, if you want serious relationship with him, you need to tell him that rather than hope that one day...
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 hi there
maybe it was just a silly joke, as thoughtless as it is, why dont you ask him what he was implying by that? then maybe it will put your mind at rest. and another thing i dont think it is good for you to believe the relationship is serious because you want it to be dont deceive yourself. if u want something serious go find a serious bf otherwise u are just wasting time. remember he was married before so he knows what the world holds in there. if u dont want to walk away as you said well prepare yourself for anything. its your choice so dont blame him if he wont commit. good luck
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