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writes:i was led in bed with my boyfriend yesterday morning and we were cuddling. He then asked me to lay on top of him so he could use me as a blanket (its a joke we have between us) and so we were cuddling like that and he then said to me ..."i dont know why but i can never get close enough to you when we're cuddling like this" and i asked him what he meant and he said .."i dont know, but no matter how we hug or cuddle it never feels like your close enough".Is this a bad thing? i dont know whether to take it as something that disappoints him Reply to this Question |
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 "i dont know, but no matter how we hug or cuddle it never feels like your close enough".
The only way you can be very close is by having sex which is a union of two souls.
Perhaps he is hinting at that......
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reader, 2112rush2112  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 i think the same thing with my g-f all the time i just cant seem to get close enough its not a bad thing it actually meens he loves you alot and he wants to be with you
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reader, natasia +, writes (11 April 2008):
 ps when i said 'i don't think that's it' - i meant i don't think you disappoint him! I think all the other aunts are right in what they're saying ...
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reader, natasia +, writes (11 April 2008):
I don't think that's it at all. I think he feels so close to you he just wants to be as close as he possibly can, and even being as physically close as he can, he still wants to be closer. I understand him. It's a bit like looking at a really beautiful view - let's say you've gone on holiday to a tropical paradise - and when you're there you just can't quite get enough of it - you feel very slightly as if you can't possess it ever as much as you want to.
I think that's what he's feeling. Do you have sex? If so, that's about as close as he can get to you. Things like falling asleep wrapped in each other's arms with him still inside you are quite nice ... i guess he would probably like that : ) - and reassure him that you want to be totally close to him, too - that will make him feel closer. It's great to be in a love bubble with someone like that! - don't worry - enjoy it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): I dont think its a bad thing I think that he just is the type who like quiteness at times when you two are together to feel your love. Quiteness is happiness at moments of times in which men want occationally.
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reader, Andy00 + ♥, writes (11 April 2008):
 Good thing, surely! I once said something very similar when with somebody I loved while we were cuddling. It was actually quite physical. We kept pushing our bodies closer together (at this stage, we had agreed that we wouldn't have sex so soon in our relationship), and I said "If I could get any closer to you, I would!"
I would take this as a definite good thing. I can see why you might have been a little confused, but from my point of you, what he said was very loving. Be happy! :D
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reader, Tisha-1  + ♥, writes (11 April 2008):
 I would take it as a very good thing! He loves being close to you and holding you as close as is physically possible. My husband said the same kind of thing to me too and I felt the same way. You just want to be so connected that you're surrounded by each other, the only disappointment being that you can only cuddle with half of your bodies touching.
So relax and enjoy that feeling of closeness and connectness, it sounds lovely!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Why not ask him what he means. He's the one who knows.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (11 April 2008):
 He needs to feel close to you. That's good!
Chances are he yearns to be inside you, that's why people make love, it's our procreative instinct!
You don't have to have sex, of course. He's just showing you he wants you!
God bless and good luck
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reader, MissKin + ♥, writes (11 April 2008):
 I'm not sure i would take it as a literal thing. Perhaps metaphorically?
If it were me i'd take it to mean that he feels he can just never hold you close enough and he'd probably feels this way even if every single part of your bodies were touching as much as they could. I think it's a good thng. He wants to hold you as close as possible. It's a sign of his affection and his love.
"when we're cuddling like this" might mean he feels closer to you cuddling in other ways, or it could mean he loves it so much that you're just never close enough. I wouldn't worry about it.
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