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anonymous
writes:Hey friends, me and my guy were out today evening and we were talking about having sex 2mrw at his place. He asked me if he should full shave? i said its your wish but just wash your men hair down there, so it smells good. He suddenly said that i stink down there and said maybe its because of the spicy food i consume. I was shocked because this is what he told me when we started dating: (he told he didn't like having sex with his ex at all because she used to stink a lot and the reason he gave was bcs she used to eat a lot of spicy food) I might be over reacting but i really feel very bad, because he said the same thing to me like what he said about his ex(in a complaining way). I really feel bad. When i told him about it, he said that he was kidding and i he said that i dont smell at all. Honestly i dont like to get a headjob, but i give him oral all the time. He wants sex 365 days in a yr and i satisfy him all the time and im very happy about it. Its just that i feel he shouldn't have said that to me. I am not attending his calls now and told him that i'd talk to him 2mrw. Should i be fine and take it normally? or what do i do?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 May 2012):
 First of all if you do smell, wouldn't you rather that he tell you? It sounded like he wanted to get back at you for telling him to wash his man-bits. Not sure if he really meant it. But I think you should be frank and ask him. If you do have a not so nice odor it usually means that there is something going on down below.
Food can alter the odor, so can drinking too much coffee, smoking, eating loads of meat and.... many other things.
Drink plenty of water, start the day with fruit. Yogurt with probiotics (you can take tablets too) can help settle the Ph of your vagina. If it gets too alkaline it can smell fishy.
Yeast infection can also make is smell less pleasant.
So, talk to him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Here's the thing, though. The timing is the issue here. Yes, a woman's diet can affect what she eats, sure, just as a man's diet affects his flavor, so to speak. The thing is, a true issue of smell would most likely have had manifested in other ways than as a *reaction* to her answer regarding his freshness.
Would he have out of the blue told her she smelled bad? Maybe not, but it would have come out in other ways. An aversion to oral sex, or hints at her to change her diet, or what have you. But rest assured, she would have picked up on, and he would have visibly registered discomfort when it came to having sex. She mentioned his wanting it 24/7. He also said he was *kidding*, underscoring that it was, in fact, an ego-induced jab at her for bringing up his odor. He masked it afterwards, but in fact, his ego was bruised by her bringing up that he should wash. It's further proven by the fact that he couldn't come up with a "unique" comeback, instead resurrecting a true and real issue he had with an *ex*.
I don't think the OP should be concerned about herself here. It doesn't sound like a true and honest issue he brought up, but rather a reaction to what she told him, hence, he said it not because it was true, but because she bruised his ego. Remember, guys are sensitive about their packages. That's their manhood!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 A woman's vagina does tend to smell a bit musky at times but if it really smells fishy it may not be what you eat (I've never really heard this before). You b/f is trying to tell you something though. I personally think if you had an STD you'd know it long before he does. It usually gives off a very potent odor and it is unmistakably unpleasant and fishy, itchy and gooey. So I doubt you acdtually have Trich. You may need to spend extra time cleaning in the netherlands especially right before sex. It'll keep the musky odor in check so you smell fresh as a daisy. Good luck.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (20 May 2012):
Here's the thing. Women always get flak for asking "leading" questions that guys don't dare answer truthfully. Question like "Does my butt look big in these jeans", or "Is she pretty" referring to a celebrity or another woman on the street. In this case, I think he asked you a "leading" question, and your answer got him a little embarrassed and on his haunches a bit. To give you a clue, never *ever* criticize a man's private parts or any supporting part of it, no matter what. He asked you about his hair down there, and you made a comment that he took to mean that he smelled bad. He pushed back at you with a criticism of how you smell, meaning what you said irked him a bit. He *will* deny that if you ask him, but why else would he turn it back on you when you mentioned his smell? He got defensive and disguised it as mere discussion.
Don't take it seriously because of the context in which he said it. Of course, good hygiene is always smart to follow, no matter what!
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reader, kingjoe king  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Please dont take it the other way wrong...But maybe he is right..check yourself very well
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reader, paso_doble +, writes (20 May 2012):
He's right! Some foods we eat can leave an oily essence that comes out of the vaginal region. ESPECIALLY when we eat fish.
Have you ever gone to a women's gym and the place smelled like fish. Well it could be they had fish that day for lunch or the day before. However, it could also be that they have an STD called Trichomonaisis (Trich).
http://www.cdc.gov/std/trichomonas/stdfact-trichomoniasis.htm
I am a woman for whom eating fish never fails to leave it's mark. So years ago, in an effort to find out about the fish smell I came across Trich.
Btw, this std can affect males as well as females.
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reader, N91  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 I don't think that's really the kind of thing for him to joke about as that's going to be something that a girl's going to be very conscious of and take huge offence from it.
It's not like he said it in a sensitive way even if he was 'joking'. Simply explain to him that you found it very hurtful and that he shouldn't joke about personal things like that and then take it from there with how you deal with him.
Good luck
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Would you rather not know? I think you're perhaps being a little over sensitive. Afterall if he penis really stank would you lick it? Its a normal thing to happen. If I eat onions, garlic and don't drink enough water, my vagina smells. Cut out strong flavoured foods. And perhaps get some vaginal gel for balancing Ph.
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