A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my partner split up over 3 months ago, he is 44 and I'm 30, we have a 7 month old baby together, he said he wanted to go because he felt suffocated plus loads off arguments. I find out about 4 weeks ago he is seeing someone else, I was absolutley devastated, hurt and upset that he replaced me so soon and the fact I have such a young baby. He even had the cheek to say she's the one, the girl of his dreams he wants to settle down with her, live aboard etc... I think she is under 25 years old.I have to see him still beacause he has to and still wants a relationship with our daughter, every time I see him I can't help but curse him, I'm only doing this beacuse I'm so upset and don't know how to deal with him and the situation because I still have feelings for him.He also has another child from someone else, she is 6 and me and his other child have formed a relationship and she still wants to see me and she always inviting me out when her dad takes her out, I did say to my ex we should still do the family things, but he said he can't at the momment because his girl will get upset, and the fact it's a new relationship and he don't want to mess it up, that converstaion happened a few weeks ago, cut a long story short my ex turned round today and said he would come to my family events, I turned round to him and said thought you couldn't come, he didn't answer me. I did tell a little white lie to him and said I'm seeing someone else, maybe he's jealous now or he's not with the girl, and he's I'm confused....
View related questions:
jealous, my ex, split up Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (31 July 2007):
 Why do you want to do family things with him? He's not acting like he's in a family. You think it's for the kids, correct. His first child is not your responsibility. HE has to deal with that. It sounds like you're trying to be a bit of a martyr. You can't do it. The six year old will not be a devastated as you think. I understand your reasoning, you have the half sibling, but you're trying to wear too many hats. Take care of the stuff on your plate. It sounds like you're lucky to be rid of him.
A
male
reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (31 July 2007):
 I don't see any evidences that he is not with that girl anymore. Maybe he wants to go to your family events because, after all, they involve his kids, and he must be there for them. To me, it doesn't sound like he is still interested in you. I don't think he's jealous or anything. Maybe he's avoiding the place just to stay out of trouble.
I know this hurts, but, give up on this man. It doesn't seem he is every coming back to you.
My heart is with you.
...............................
|
