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writes: I've been dating my boyfriend for just over a year now. Yesterday though I was having doubts and was so close to just ending it, so I went over his house and he gave me courage and hope saying that he had no doubts that we were gonna make it through today. So I held on. A few hours later, we were just talking and I asked him if what he felt for me was just strong attraction or love. He started telling me then that he thought he was just attracted to me, and wasnt really sure that it was love. I asked him if the feeling was still there, the feeling everyone gets when they kiss their lover, and leaned forward to give him a kiss, but he pushed me away and said that the feeling was no longer there, and that he lost intrest. Later on that day I talked to his friends, who told me he was saying stuff about me that wasnt true, and making me seem like a bad person, and that he said the day before that he was planning on breaking up with me. I got really annoyed and stopped trying to hold on to us, and just let the break up happen, as soon as I told him I hated him for hurting me this way, all of the sudden he had his intrest back in me and didnt want to break up. After the entire day of me fighting to keep us together, he said no, but now he suddenly say's part of him still loves me, and doesnt want to break up. I gave him one last chance, and now I'm not sure about my feelings for him anymore. Reply to this Question |
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (10 September 2006):
 wants what he cant have!i think its an ego thing!
a guy did the exact same thing to me! my bf now is lovely not arrogant at all no mind games straight up!
and i tell u now if we broke up tomorrow id sooner be single 4ever than put up with all dat BS again!
u deserve better!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, NightAngel +, writes (10 September 2006):
NightAngel is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have always loved him, and I still do. It's just that everytime we kiss now, It's difficult, everytime he says "I love you" Its hard to believe him. All the memories from two days ago keep haunting me, and I'm just not sure I can forgive him. Any idea's
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reader, Angel_A +, writes (10 September 2006):
 He does love you or he doesn't? he does want to break up or he doesn't? you want to break up with him or you don't?
Wow this is a confusing one!
All I can suggest is listen to your inner voice and ask yourself "What do YOU want to do?". You said you were having doubts even before all of this, and he's said he's attracted to you but for him its not yet love (though later went onto say he loved you which sounds like he was just telling you what you wanted to hear?).
Rather than break up, why not suggest you just take some time out and have some space for a week or two, and then see how you feel then? You may feel less stressed, liberated and sure of your initial feeling that the relationship wasn't working, or you may miss him and realise how much you care about him. Of course, he will then also go through this process, and the end result may be that you're in different places, so it's a risk.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006): just walk away, it doesn't sound like either of you are that commited to your relationship. and neither of you are even sure about it anymore. save your self the pain of stretching it out.
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reader, x-L-x +, writes (10 September 2006):
 i think this guy takes you for granted. he knows he has you and he doesnt really care about showing you any love or even respect. your relationship seems to be coming to an end whether you like it or not there is no spark there anymore, he told you straight out that there was no feelings and i think the reason for him changing his mind is that you had been together for quite a while and he doesnt want to move on to someone new...you are a convinience to him. end it now before you feel any worse...i think you should start again and find someone worth the effort. good luck :) x x
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