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writes: my ex-bf wants to get back together but he can only give me 10% of his time. sometimes he'd rather play ball with his mates or video games rather than pick me up and be together. we get together when its convenient (when we have the same class) but other than that he doesnt go out of his way to make time with me.we used to be together all the time but he broke up with me as he felt controlled, now he wants me back but we spend only a little time together, he rarely texts or calls, and prioritizes other things (study,friends,play,sleep) it seems he prioritizes everything but me. should i accept this set-up? because if i let him go i might regret it! im hanging around because im hoping that one day (when he's ready) our relationship will be like before when he used to be so committed to me and i felt so loved.
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reader, marie78 +, writes (11 November 2006):
1st, talk to him about your feelings. You're probably talking to everyone else except for him. After the two of you broke-up, he might have filled his life with more hobbies and friends, so he might not be in relationship mode just yet. So, sit down with him and discuss with him what you'd like to get out of the relationship. If he doesn't comply, then you have a decision to make. However, it's important to ask yourself if you truly have a life... are your weekdays scheduled with fun activities and hobbies? Are you getting together with friends on a weekly basis? If you're waiting around for him to contact you, then you're wasting your time. Get your own life, so you're not concerned with what he does. Take care of yourself before allowing a man into your life. What are your wants and needs? If he were to leave you, would you be happy without him? Don't rely on a man to make you happy. Quick Fix: Distance yourself from him. make lots of plans with friends, get involve din some new activities and hobbies. He'll soon see how busy you are and will want to spend more time with you. Also, don't call him- never call him- he must call you. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006):
Over time he has forgotten how bad your behavior was.
If you havent changed, it just a matter of time before he dumps you again for being stiffling.
Have you tried agreeing on an amount of time? If its not to be 10% is it 15% or 20%? Or you will not happy unless you are more than he is willing to give?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): It is never going to go back to the way it was. Face up to that. You will find someone really gorgeous and nice to you one day but lets face it, it isn't him.
Tell him to get lost. You have better things to do with your time. When we feel like you do the relationship is doomed, i know i have been there. I am talking from experience when i say find someone else. Move on.
Take care
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