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writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months and everything was going well until he started talking about us getting married after college, we are getting ready to start our senior year in college, and it freaked me out. He also makes me feel guilty if i can't hang out with him or can't talk on the phone. I want to stay with him but i also want to be able to live my own life as well. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, spiceboys  +, writes (31 July 2007):
It sounds like your boyfriend is insecure and feels like he might lose you. It is clear that if he carries on being this needy he will eventually drive you away.
It is difficult in your situation to take a step back without him taking it personally and exacerbating the situation. However you should reassure him that you love him very much, but you feel at this time in your life you are not ready to make a lifelong commitment such as marriage.
It sounds like he is playing on your guilt to see more of you? You should be careful that you stand your ground and don't always see him whenever he wants. Its very easy to get stuck in the habit of seeing eachother too much and missing out on time that you should be spending with your friends. Try and find out what is fueling this insecurity and talk it over with him. Does he not have many friends himself that wants to spend time with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): He is just proving that he loves you, sit down with him and tell him you would rather finish you education then marry, and don't forget to mention you love him
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