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He lives in a different city and I really like him. How can I get him more interested in me?

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Question - (19 November 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 21 November 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello! In a complicated situation. Help me out ! I really like this friend who lives in a different city.

We have been on a couple of dates but we don't get to meet because of distance. I asked him out on a date recently but his response was " I suck at being romantic!'

He said he sucks at dates and find such matter complicated.

He is shy around me and I know he isn't lying about feeling awkward. He will never pursue this. I wanted to confess my feelings but I want to do it in person and I have no idea when will I get to see him next.

He is very close to this girl in his city.

He told me they are just friends but I feel really bad everytime i see his snapstories and pics with her. Why isn't he shy around her ?!

I know i shouldn't feel jealous. I don't know what to do about this whole situation. I tried walking away but been 3 years now.. Really do like him.

What do I do ?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (21 November 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntHe is shy around you because he has his guard up with you, he doesn't with the other girl, he probably knows her better and therefore is more comfortable with her. I know it is not what you want to hear, but he does not want to be with you, if he did he would find a way to spend time with you. He used a silly excuse as he did not want to hurt your feelings. If he liked someone he would make an effort.

Now this is going to leave you feeling sad as it has been three years, but how much off your life do you want to waste on this guy? Three more years? Six? Twenty? At some point you need to tell yourself enough is enough, block all contact and live your life.

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A female reader, Elorm Ghana +, writes (21 November 2016):

Elorm agony auntMy dear since he doesn't show any sign of being interested in you please try and move on with your life because the way you are into him is not the same way he feels for you

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2016):

N91 agony auntDenizen is spot on. He's not interested, you asked him on a date and he said no in the politest way he could think of.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2016):

Denizen agony auntSorry to tell you but it doesn't sound as if he is that into you. If he were he would be breaking down doors and leaping tall buildings to be with you.

I think this may not be the best match for you. It seems too one sided.

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