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writes:This may sound a little trivial but i'd really appreciate some advice. okay here goes.... there is this guy on my bus who i've know forever.. recently he's been getting really clingy, i'm not interested in him in a romantic way but i'm pretty sure he likes me. with valentines coming up, i'm 'scared' he'll make a move that i wouldn't be ready for... i don't want to lead him on and hurt him that way but i also don't want to hurt him by telling him. xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Well your feelings on this matter are not entirely clear from this question. You say 'i'm 'scared' he'll make a move that i wouldn't be ready for' but you say 'i'm not interested in him in a romantic way'. Is that because you feel you are not ready for a committed relationship as implied by your later passage or is it because you simply aren't interested?? I think you need to clarify this in your own head....
Having said that Jager is basically right; rejection stings and if you go about this 'trying not to hurt him' you are going to end up fudging this and making it worse. Do compliment him like Jager said which will soften the blow but make sure you are clear in your own mind about what you want before you do it and you have to realise that you cant avoid hurting him, you can just soften the blow. Good luck :)x
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reader, Jager +, writes (7 February 2009):
To be honest. There is no way i can think of to avoid hurting this guy. You have to tell him your just good friends. The best way of doing this is saying you feel like his your brother. Explaining that your friendship is really good and reminds you of a brother sister connection. Will give the right impression. If he tells you he loves you or fancys you or anything like that. I would compliment him an tell him your just happy being friends. Dont make a big thing out of it there is no reason it should effect your friendship
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