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He likes being sought after, but it frustrates me

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Question - (15 February 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 February 2010)
A age 41-50, * writes:

I had attention issues with my boyfriend from the time we started dating eight months ago. He was always too busy for me. I complained several times but he did nothing, and actually seemed to enjoy the chase. He would however treat me very well and spoil me with a lot of treats. I got frustrated and ‘somehow switched off’ so I stopped missing him and begging to have time with him. Now he is complaining that I am not paying attention to him and he misses how I used to call him all the time and want to see him. He says he wants me to get back to that again. I explained to him why I have stopped paying attention (because I was getting frustrated). Am scared that the whole cycle of having to be chasing him will start again and frustrate me even more. What’s the best way to handle this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010):

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Thankyou for the advice people

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A female reader, kelsey18 United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2010):

kelsey18 agony auntWALK AWAY! This happened to me for a year he was always too busy for me i used to beg aswell,it didnt matter how many times i spoke to him about it,nothing ever changed. Its not gona get any better. In the end i just figured if hes not spending time with me hes spending it with somebody else(another girl)-and eventually ended up hating him. If your situation is anything like mine was then the longer it goes on the more hurt your goin to get. I eventually said to him this is your last chance (and made him believe it)i gave him 2 weeks to start making more of an effort with me and nothing changed yet again. He wasnt taking any of my threats seriously. i ignored him for ages after this,then eventually it ended (for good) with a very bad arguement and now we pretty much hate eachother. Just be careful some people just arent worth the time or effort and we're just too blind to see it. good luck with whatever u decide to do x

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